Recently I was contacted by an old male friend from university through FB.
He was someone that I liked back then as a mate but it was always platonic as far as I was aware.
Over the last couple of months, we have been chatting online more and more and it's been really good fun. Reminiscing ... and also a lot's happened since then to catch up on. He's witty, funny, interesting.
The tone of his messages started to get slightly flirty - in a very mild way.
It all just seemed to escalate from there. I feel like I have a crush on him. He told me he always fancied me. So there seems to be a big mutual attraction.
BUT ... he started to get quite sexual in his messages. In some ways I liked this, in other ways it all seemed a bit odd - too forward, too much, too soon.
Bear in mind, we haven't physically met up yet.
He continued on this vein, it seems he is often steering the conversation around to sex. I've mentioned that I'm slightly uncomfortable with it and so he backed off and talked about other stuff. But then he always comes back to how much he fancies me, how I turn him on so much.
Then the other night, he starts again and getting more and more sexual.
I asked him if he'd had cybersex much in the past and he said yes with his exes.
So I felt quite weird about this suddenly. He then CONTINUES with the sex talk, what he'd like to do.
I said ok, let's stop talking about that now. And he said ok, I need to go to sleep anyway and pretty much cut me off.
I said I couldn't help feeling that he was just interested in sex with me.
He then said that wasn't true, he needed to go to sleep and cut me off again. I said well thanks a lot.
I haven't contacted him since then and he hasn't contacted me. It's been a couple of days now.
My gut instinct says it just ain't right. But it still hurts.
Please can someone talk this through with me. Why do I feel I've done the right thing but I miss him and it feels shitty?