My mil as a person is ok. She's interesting, Well travelled and educated. I'd you met her at a party you would think "nice lady" however, as a mother, he does not deserve the title.
She is bi-polar, and has come off her medication. Year ago. I understand she has mental health problems, and has had them all the time I have known her and that's fine we support her, she does however, use very manipulative, selfish, vile behaviour towards us excusing it as her illness. This is not the case. She knows what she's doing.
Dh is an only child and aunts, uncles ect won't help as she is so demanding of them. She has pushed everyone away. He has a very stressful job and is a wonderful husband and I have seen him break down so many times (when she calls ranting at 3am for example) because he doesn't know what to do with he anymore. She is completely of the rails and refusing help. Yet wants us to bail her out when she won't play along with our rules. Eg- she isn't allowed to call at 3am. She still does and when we tell her that's not acceptable so we are not going to see her today as we are tired. she calls my dh names and then rings hours later crying saying sorry . Therefore he worried feels guilty all day.
Her current "thing" Is that if she blows all her money she can live with us. So we then have to watch what she's spending and tell he off. I just want her back on the meds because she is easier to handle. I know it's her choice but surely a mother would do anythIng for her son, and he's told her he's cant cope with her like this.
Anyways I could go on for days! She will be coming to sty for the night in about an hour. Initially we told her she couldn't stay with us as we don't have the room and I'm 13 weeks pregnant and still feeling a bit rough. When my parents stay they get a hotel. So she got a hotel last night. Bit has announced she is staying tonight and will be here in an hour.
I just wanna stay calm. I jut want a nice time but I know she's gunna wind me up. Help!
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Mil (who I consider toxic) will be here in an hour. I'm pg and really want to stay calm. Bring lavender and relaxing oils this way!
2wwmadness · 25/10/2011 11:02
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