Hi will try and keep this as brief as pos.....
Parents split and divorced 8yrs ago after F had an affair and moved in with ow. Left DM with no money - had remortgaged family home and run up loads of debt on cards ete. Bascially he skipped the country (went to Eire) and turned his back on the lot. M has managed to clear her bit of debt (joint acc OD) with help from me and her db and is now re-building her life.
F plays the poor me card constantly and about 3 years ago I had enough - I was doing all the running - sending texts, letter, emails to keep in touch with him - my reasoning was that what had happened between dm and him was their concern - and that it shouldn't affect my relationship with either of them (tbh I just wanted a quiet life and refused to be drawn into the middle). Anyway contact with him was like pulling teeth - last meet-up was when I was in Dublin for a family funeral - which he refused to go to cos he said the family was out to get him (it was his sister ffs) about 4 yrs ago.
I got fed up with it being one way traffic - me doing all the running and getting nothing in return - no b'day cards, no Christmas cards, not even a text message which didn't contain a tale of woe about how horrible his life was and how everyone is against him. Not even an acknowlegement of the fact I have 4dcs, (2 he's never met) and hes supposed to be their gf?
So anyway no contact at all for the last 18mths when out of the blue I get a letter - again full of woe - saying he will be in London in March and he wants me to meet up with him at the hotel he will be staying at.
I don't want to............I've come round to the idea that my F is not interested in me or mine and thats fine. Dubious of the reason for meeting up - suspect he wants money (hes asked before). AIBU?