Hi
1st time poster here just looking for a little advice.
Just caught my husband out asking a lady to do things for him on a live porn website. He says it's only the 2nd (or 3rd) time he's ever done it and he's guilty and ashamed and wont do it again - as I'm sure anyone would!
Since we had our baby (6 months ago) our sex life has been pretty rubbish and I'm not dumb - I know men look at porn. But I just feel that talking to someone online makes it that bit more personal (almost like he's cheating on me). - although I realise I'm doing the same thing here!
I'm not sure how to respond. I've always had 100% trust in him and I feel like this opens a can of worms - can I trust him. I'm thinking has he really done this 2 or 3 times and is there more to it than he says. Should I be hurt / angry ... or should I accept that he needed an outlet from elsewhere?!
He's my best pal and I don't want this to become a major issue but I feel it could.
What do you advise?