DH putting me down in front of kids

[lilliesmummy]

I have been with DH for 6 years and we have two DDs aged nearly 5 and 4.

For the last couple of months now DH has been making remarks about me in front of them. Only trivial things really like "mummy can't cook" and "look at mummy's tummy" but it is starting to really upset me.

Today we all had sandwiches for lunch and I offered everyone a slice of melon after. The girls weren't hungry and DH didn't want any either but I did.
He then said to DD1 several times "tell mummy she's greedy" but DD1 just looked at both of us and wouldn't say it.

After I had bathed both of them and put them to bed I brought it up and told him I don't like him saying things like this in front of our DDs. But he brushed it off and said I am being oversensitive and need to "understand a joke when I hear one".

So is he right? Am I being oversensitive?

If all this is only recently and suddenly it seems to me that he has an affair. Don't they usually get angry at their wife when they have an affair?

If you don't leave him at least make sure that he NEVER again uses your dcs to put you down. NOT funny at all.

He is being a dick and an arse and all kinds of a shit.

He's belittling you and a joke with a jag is never funny.

You have 2 choices. Read the riot act and hope he changes. Or get rid of him.

FWIW my ex started like this. It was all wee subtle put downs that it was very hard to call him on, because I had no sense of humour and couldn't see when he was being funny.

You will notice he is the EX.