DH shouting like a sergeant major. Another stressful bedtime.

[spidermama]

I'm thinking, it's definitely his turn to put them to bed, but I don't know if I can stand it. He's up there now, shouting.
Of course, the kids are shouting too and crying and arguing in an atmosphere which is not ideal for bedtime.

Why does it always have to be this way?
We had such a lovely calm week last week when he was in London and I swear bevaiour improved dramatically.

I've suggested he take the Supernanny approach and told him it works for me, but he has this notion that kids need to be 'scared' of their parents. (Too scared to misbehave)

How many more years will it take him to realise it's not working?
And how can I stop myself from arguing with him for messing up all my hard work?

I hear this a lot from other mums mymama.
I remember my dad used to shout a lot, whearas mum didn't.
I think it might be a 'man' thing - though obviously not all men do it.

The thing that upsets me most is that my kids are now starting to shout and talk to us the same way. It sounds so awful coming from children.

I can shout like a fishwife but i find threatening them with Super Nanny is enough .

My dp was shouting at our son earlier. I said "Have you got a headache?"
He said "Yes, I have,actually"
I said "What did ds do to directly cause your headache? I presume that's why you are shouting at him?"

he stopped shouting. Ha, it worked. It always does when I stick my nose up and take the moral high ground.