The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Brewery!

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Hello.

I'm Mouse and I've been on the bus for 2 months now and not fallen off it as yet. It's much more comfortable than The Wagon!

Anyway, this is thread number nine!

Everyone is welcome to join at any point of the journey, drinking or not, wanting to stop or just to cut down.

Jump on board, you won't be judged, just supported whatever you decide.

Here is the history of The Brave Babes if you want to have a read.

JWN's original thread

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Morning Campers

Hope everyone is good.

Today I shall mostly be cleaning and
TODAY I WILL NOT BE DRINKING.

Wasindie - hope you are OK - let us know.

Lucil - well done

Christi - where are you - are you OK?

Mouse - hope you are still asleep

Everyone - hoping you have a lovely day.

Note to everyone - My DP is a taxi driver and said to me last night that he picks up all sorts of people but also a lot of drinkers (obviously - that would be why they are getting a taxi) and that everyime he mes home that uis how I smell.

That was enough to put be firmly back on the bus - THOUGHT FOR THE DAY xxxx

Hi getting you sound really pissed off (no pun intended) What have you got to loose in aiming to not drink today. Are you afraid of failing so think you might as well accept defeat for the day now?
Hope you don't read this as unsympathetic.
x

morning all. hangover free in algee's world, just dropped dd at choir through the fog; glad i didn't hve to negotiate that with a hangover!

Well done toall...will get back in to the swing of remembering names soon, honest...yeras of killing off the old grey matter I'm afraid.

silver...ah that smell....I still hate the thought of my dd knowing that smel as well as she must hae done. Thing is she never commented, but a couple of weeks ago when I had a dip, and a few nips of whiskey, she came to give me a cuddle and reeled away asking what the dreadful smell was. Gross...that was a short lived dabble...

getting, today is a new day... even if it is foggy outside...

venus, how lovely to see you...India??!!

and wasindie...glad you're still here, how is your lovely family?

...and everyone else, big wave, off to rub down some windows now.

Am relieved I left it at two drinks.
A couple of weeks ago I couldn't have done that.
I still feel that for me, nothing is easier than moderation.
Last night was a struggle and I didn't enjoy the wine I did have because I was obsessing about it not being enough.
Morning everyone.
Sunshine at last.
Off to Asda with DP and the little people...can't wair.

Morning SAF - I'm glad to hear that you think you can moderate and stop yourself from going too far over the line. I wish I could do that but I'm not sure I can. Maybe in time...?

I'm pretty determined that Im going to drive tonight. However, if she insists I could still see it as an even bigger test and go, not be the driver and still not drink.

Too risky?

Thanks and for the record I dont mind how harsh the words are and I am grateful that people take the trouble to comment.

SAF when I picked you as my non drinking buddy didnt know how good at this you would be

I understand where you are all coming from and I know you will be rofl at whats coming but Saturday is my day for drinking

I have asked a friend over for a drink and to watch SCD together and will enjoy it I think (?)because its "allowed" and also I am feeling better today as I say last night stirred up a lot of totally unexpected feelings

I am aware though that most of you will be rolling your eyes etc but in my defence I havent,at this point,set out to be teetotal and whilst yes I have failed to meet the goals I have set I am vastly improved.

What I have feared from the start is complacency and the Oh I have proved I can do this so I can ease off syndrome. So I have noted that yet again I didnt do what I said I would but dont want to punish myself for it.

Someone sent me a surprise delivery of goodies last week including a few bottles of wine. If it hadnt been there last night I would have stuck to my guns so I need to do something about it which wont include pouring them down the drain. Maybe the garage not the wine rack.

Thankyou to everyone encouraging and supporting me and reading all the success posts is so inspiring and I can only think is what is enabling to make the inroads on my drinking that I have because nothing else has ever worked

Hi JAB, others have probably given all this advice (I haven't managed to read all the back-posts yet), but if you are going to go tonight, and you are not the driver then try some of the following:

As soon as you get in get a big glass of non-alcoholic drink in your hand and don't let go (far to easy and tempting to accept a glass of something if you are empty handed). It really helps if it is non-alcohoic drink that you actually enjoy - a wonderful mocktail, or whatever. If it is just one I am OK with fizzy water, but after that I am looking for something else, so plan out all the non-alcoholic drinks you might enjoy, so if you're feeling bored with one, then you can move on to another.

Plan out what you're going to say if someone tries to press a glass of wine on you - I use "actually I've got a bit of a headache at the moment, I'll just have coke (or whatever) for the moment" or if I'm questioned I say that I'm not drinking as much at the moment. Neither have ever raised a comment or an eyebrow.

Don't know if you can access internet non your phone, but if you feel really tempted you could lock yourself in the toilet and come on here and post for help.

Good luck, and enjoy your self. and enjoy knowing that tomorrow morning you will feel better than many others.

Hi getting, I had a really bad evening a few weeks back when a bottle of wine was in the fridge taunting me. Strangely I did find that putting it in the garage made it feel more inaccessible.

You are right about not beating yourself up - I think that spiral can often drive you have another drink, but you are also very right to notice that you didn't quite manage what you set out to do. Noticing things like that and being honest about them is a really good habit to get in to - and may prevent an incidious slip back towards more frequent drinking patterns (ones that you don't want).

Hi venus thanks for your tips and advice! Im feeling pretty positive at the mo but know that a wobble could come on later so will bear it all in mind.

Im on mat leave at the moment and this party is with some of my colleagues. I guess I want to prove to them that now Im a mother Im responsible and no longer need to get pissed on wine. Does that sound daft? I know it probably shouldn't be about what other people think but I do worry about my reputation and this seems like a good time to change it iyswim.

However, above all it is more about me being healthy and being able to look after my DD properly.

Crikey SAF you are a real taskmaster

I know you are right I will think about it SAF

Morning all. Iwas feeling proud of myself for not drinking last night, as I'd spent all day negotiating with myself whether I was allowed to drink on Friday night, but then not Sunday, or not drink Friday night, but drink Sunday afternoon with long lunch. Tonight was of course, a given, as I'm going to a party and will get mashed.

You can tell I'm not quite approaching this right yet.

But no hangover today. Baby steps.

Love to all the fellow strugglers out there.

Morning, just.

getting - SAF beat me to it. And is spot on! If you are 'allowed to drink' one night a week, then you have already had that night. Unless your weeks start and end on the same Friday.

venus - please tell me that it is snowing and minus 15 over there. Not sunny and warm! Please!

Luci - you did great last night. You really did!

Wasindie - I'm guessing that you didn't not drink last night. I hope you are ok. xx

Hey Red - good to see you popped in!!

Silver - are you driving us today only I need a few bits, could do with hitting a supermarket if you wouldn't mind? Or local village shops? I need a butchers, green grocers, and electrical retailer.

Hello to all you other Brave Babes!!

hi mouse

Im currently re-reading the older threads for inspiration. Im just at the point where you popped up...can't believe how far you've come. What an achievement .

Sorry if that makes me sound stalker-ish, Im not really

How are you doing lovely? How are you finding things today? And how is your lovely DD?

Ha ha, the old threads are just reminding me about how I felt connected to you all in the 1st place re alcohol and why Im here again.

Im pretty good today. DD is just adorable, currently having a little snooze next to me on the sofa. I cant believe how fast she's changing. I swear she's going to walk and talk at any minute!!!

how is nemo? Sorry to sound like a stalker but I have so much admiration for how you cope

The bus will be passing by through your area throughout today for any babes that need to get on and have a ride.

Struggling at the moment but I have been on rather a long bender.

So here's to DAY ONE.

Hope everyone else is feeling bright eyed and bushy tailed - that's how I will be feeing in a few days.

Ding Ding

Thanks.

He's having a nap. DH had him overnight last night and I got in with DD. So I actually slept. It was amazing.

He was sick again last night. I thought we'd got past the reflux but no.

Anyway, life goes on! We''l get there I'm sure. He has a long journey, as do we with him but we will get there.

He is my reason so the least that I can do is give him the best of me, which has to be the sober me.

He needs me. And I need him.

They do grow so fast!! Glad DD is ok, and you lovely xx

DD is reason too. I do not want her to have a drunk mother who she is ashamed of. My own mother is fab and I want to be the same.

I'm a bit ignorant about Nemo's SN though I have looked at your profile. Will he be tube fed indefinitely? Apologies if that sounds like a ridiculous question, Im just interested.