bum play

[Dominique07]

Ever met men who want bum play?

Feel suddenly shy about this!

I love sex, but never felt the need to experiment too much... And now I've met someone who is into handcuffs and bum play.

Any advice about how to approach this?

Dominique, I am guessing that you mean he is into bum play? I think a lot of men like this. I do it a lot with my partner, but we have been together yrs!

My partner likes fingers up his bum(he hasnt actually asked- I've just experimented lol) and also me licking it( always a clean clean bum of course!!!). He sometimes does the same to me and it feels very nice and very erotic.

Maybe your fella likes toys also?

BTW vanilla sex i think is just the basic stuff ie.missionary, nothing fancy

God ive gone all hot now, no one knows who i am do they?!

Are you Coleen Rooney?

Just got your comment coolfonz - took a while . Still thinking about the homeless one though.....

Dominque,
Bum play is definitely a matter of try it and see ..... personally I quite like it and know that it really turns my partner on, which in turn gives me a lot of enjoyment from it. The first time I was very nervous though as it was not something that I had ever considered before!

Best advice I can give you, have a few drinks, relax .... the more tense you are the more it is likely to be sore .... and plenty of lube!! Ann Summers do one specifically for bum play and its fab! The lube makes a big difference!

Having said that, if its genuinely something you dread and do not want then be honest with your partner and tell him how you feel! Its nothing to be ashamed of!

HTH

Male or female bum?

this place is being trolled to death at the moment isn't it!

Aren't bum sex threads the norm for mumsnet anyway!?

I'm with carmenelectra! it's really horny and feels awesome after a few attempts ! not sure about handcuffs and bum play? Maybe a bit to much for first time!

Just enjoy yourself, we only live once it isn't going to kill u :-)

No no, not all that for the first time, but will be sure to prepare probs such as lube.

Thanks for the help.

Speaking as a - perhaps not typical! - bloke, I can, hand on heart, say I was never interested in anal with my partner. However when my partner sticks a finger up my bottom , it does - in all honestry - drive me wild.

yeah handcuffs ott for first time..you want to be able to stop right away if you want.

new to the er dating game and have found most men these days love it. Questioned one of them who said it wasn't because it was tighter, but because it felt a bit naughtier...

have to say, relax, loads of lube and it's rather nice!

'Rimming' - both ways - good tho!

Clean well.

Use lots of lube.

Don't put anything up there you wouldn't want a doctor to see. Anal toys have flanges so they can't get sucked up.

Enjoy.

Oh,

And it shouldn't hurt. If it does, ease up.

Oh fgs it's Christmas.

Can't somebody bump a thread about kittens?

It's more popular nowadays because of porn, In the 80's early 90s Bj's were the done thing, now you are no fun unles you take it up the ass Like many porn films a shag isn't a shag unless you have some anal no?

TS bumping a thread to talk about rimming there is a suprise, not get laid tonight now?

TS bumped this thread ?

quelle surprise

Bum play, what's that? Are you sure that he didn't say "bummer want to play" or "want to bum and play" ? Otherwise surely you need specialist advice and this is not the place where that kind of thing is known about?

well i'm still chuckling that mumsnetters have vanilla and chocolate sex only to be told by my brother that in 'man speak' they say potting the pink or potting the brown!!!!! Where have i been?????