So damp inside paint won't even dry. Things are warping daily.
You need dry walls before doing anything else.
It's the only part of the house with plumbing.
Have you fully investigated for any leaks? Checked gutters. Floor levels/blocked drains/air bricks?
The blown render would cost about £10,000 to fix. I have more like £500. What would be my best actions to address the damp?
Find the cause and treat that. No point in repairing or replacing render until the wall has dried out. that's like putting an Elastoplast on a Broken Leg.
Dehumidifier between kitchen and bathroom - Yes as a temporary solution
Damp proof paint on kitchen walls - NO. - thats not solving the problem it spending money to disguise it and won't work.
Fit a great extractor fan in the bathroom - yes - the more ventilation everywhere the better.
Windows open when we're in the kitchen - have them open as often as you can.
Any thoughts and experiences gratefully received.
Find the cause. Do not inject with chemicals. There will be a leak inside or out, something blocked...... Find the problem. Deal with it - ask here if unsure. Leave the wall to dry out - eg through winter/spring and possibly summer. Then paint or so on.
A dry house is a warm house. A dry old house is achieved through ventilation and using the correct products on walls and so on. Please don't disguise the problem, that will cost you more and not work.