Small bedroom big house, who gets it?

[3weecherubs]

looking for advice please. We’ve bought a new house, it’s a mistake, we only saw it once made a rash decision and now we are stuck. It is a great house, just a bit more work and cash than we planned and a bit smaller than we remember. But to get the point I have no idea who gets which room. I have Dd 12, DS 10and DS2 aged 7. There are 3 rooms for them but 2 are middle sized an one small. I feel DD should have it as she has less toys but she is so upset. Not in a spoiled, tantrum way but quietly teary and sad, saying its alright when I know it’s not. Any ideas, am I really just giving it to her cause she’s the oldest and I know she will suck it up? First world problems,,

I’d give it to the 7yo

Can't your boys share, and keep their stuff in the smallest room?

Does anyone have another area? Eg ds1 has a keyboard downstairs, or did has access to a summer house space?

I would give it to ds1.

Your DD is nearly a teenager and will need her space and presumably space for friends etc.

Ds2 will need the space for his toys for a few more years.

Ds1 will need fewer toys soon so less space.

Dd not did.

The 7 year old is the one with all the toys, he loves lego and playmobul and they get everywhere. The reason we are moving is because the boys share and the 10 year old beginning to need his own space.

I agree playmobil that DS1 is the logical choice but terrified of the middle child backlash!

The 2 boys share the biggest room and the first one who wants his own room moves into the smallest?

Youngest always gets the smallest room and (when they're older) sits in the back seat in the car. It's the sibling rules!

Playroom/Family room, boys share biggest room, DD gets the other? Or if a room each youngest child gets smallest room. This can be shuffled about when DD goes to Uni/leaves home.

We've got 3 kids and are in the process of buying a 4 bed. For us the DDs will share the largest room, we get the next size room, the au pair gets the attic room with en suite and DS (youngest) will get the box room. But we'll have a large playroom as well so bedrooms will be for sleeping only.

There are 2.5 sitting rooms, DD is so bad at squirrelling away in her current room I thought if she had the smallest room it may make join us more!

A lady I work with rotates her kids around the rooms every few years so no one is stuck with the small room, would that work?

Do it in age order. Youngest gets smallest room. Maybe a cabin bed with storage underneath. Your daughter will need space for sleepovers and teenagers spend a lot of time in their bedrooms

The 2 boys share the biggest room and the first one who wants his own room moves into the smallest? oh you are evil. I like it!

Definitely the 7 year old in the smallest room. Give him some extra space downstairs to store some of his toys. He can have a bigger room in 6-7 years, when your eldest moves out.

Rotate every year. Gives then a reason to have a nice tidy and clear out at the same time.

There are 2.5 sitting rooms Youngest gets the small room and one of the sitting rooms becomes a playroom.

Yes but if you do it in age order, at some point the youngest will also need their own space but will be stuck in the smallest room.
speaks from bitter experience

Or, turn one of the sitting rooms into a bedroom (for one of the older ones) or a playroom (for the 7 year old)?

The rationale for the middle child to have it is pretty poor TBH (sorry, maybe my middle child chip speaking...)

Surely the youngest gets it, because that's the downside of being the youngest? Then when DD moves out he gets to have the biggest one and all's fair with the world?

The least tidy one gets the smallest room. Admittedly with mine they are all naturally messy, but the one who puts the most effort into helping/tidying gets first choice. The oldest's room is up for negotiation when they leave home.

Boys + upstairs sitting room upstairs, reclusive 12yo in heart of family downstairs + downstairs sitting room

Smallest room for oldest is shit. Give her the choice and then toss a coin for the other two. In two years' time, give the middle one the choice etc.

It's totally fair then and they all get a chance to have the 'best room'.

The middle child thing is a big deal, I just can’t give it to DS1, he’s never had his own room unlike the other 2 and I just feel he needs first choice.
Was hoping to keep all the Lego etc in their rooms. We moved it all upstairs to their room when we were selling and it was lovely to have it out the way. Def DD or DS2. Just need to decide what’s fair.

Feeling sad for your DD. Teens need room for sleepovers, homework etc. Being mostly in their rooms is a natural stage, not necessarily a negative thing. I would give her time in large room then swap small room with youngest when she goes to uni.