Well yes, you are of course all right. I was concerned about the long thin rooms and also generally how this was all going to work.
I am not convinced by this all at all. Which I guess is the core problem.
It is hard when you can't afford to move. You would need 50-60-75k to get anything better than what we have.
So you are stuck.
Although redesigning, the downstairs space, is not a problem. Layout can be changed.
It is quite changeable, easily walked through/around.
To address the problem of long thin rooms, the extension would go across current lounge and dining room. See linked photo. Many of the current houses already have the lounge and dining room linked : see my original floor plan, there is a doorway from finning room to lounge on that.
Some people add a conservatory, that links the lounge to dining room.
And I never thought we could or should even try for a 4th bedroom. When are garden is do small. Although I have re measured it, since posting and it is bigger than I first thought, and also could be made bigger than currently is, by applying to council to purchase some of the communal garden.
Bil is not the problem. He's so lovely, worked liked a dog, his whole life, 7 days a week, and could probably retire now, and just look after all his buy-to-let properties, but he chooses to carry on working self employed.
We do have the money for building materials, new kitchen etc. But he would probably end up buying those, through his business - I thought there was quite a lot of VAT on kitchens and bathrooms.
He has built large extensions, conservatories etc for all his other brothers and sisters over the years, so was quite happy to work on dh's solely, he said.
Oh I'm sorry. I just don't know what it best.