twins question

[Snowybird]

This is really a twins question although I originally posted it as a music question. Any mums of twins who would like to venture a view, please do!

I have twin boys who are seven; DS1 is very engaged with music and I took him along to a cathedral choir test in very hesistant fashion, mostly to get a professional opinion about his talent or lack of. The music director was very keen and offered DS1 a place. Now I have the dilemma of 1. moving house 2. uprooting DS2 (his twin brother) for no obvious advantage to himself, although the new school would be at least as good as his present school. On the other hand, joining the cathedral choir is a fabulous opportunity for DS's self-esteem, motivation and general personal development and it's really now or never since all the cathedrals are recruiting now, if they have not already done so. BTW we do not want to send DS1 into boarding and this is one of the few choir schools which is not boarding. Anyone with thoughts/experience?

no experience - but what does your non singy twin think about it all?

He says he doesn't want to go, but I have not really tried to discuss it yet. We are planning to tour the school soon, and I am thinking of taking him alone so that we are really focussed on whether it is good for him also. Any thoughts?

The main question is what would ds 2 get out of all this. Would the school offer him a good education that was suited to him (I don't know what ds 2's interests/talents are).

If so, then it would probably be fine - but if the move would benefit ds1 but at great expense to ds 2, then I think you might have to reconsider. You need to do something which has benefits (not necessarily the same ones) for both of them.

I speak not as a mother of twins, but as a twin myself btw.