Another child spat on ds today - fair to ask what happened on one of those things?

[thegrullafosmum]

Ds is in reception. Apparently another boy spat on him today and he came home with a different top on and the other one in a bag.
I was told by the teacher only that "it got wet".

Ds said that x (a boy in his class) spat on his back, and that he was made to apologise to ds by the teaching assistant.

I am only going on what ds (normally very reliable BUT I appreciate he's little and four year olds get mixed up etc.) has said.

I'd like to find out what went on - is it reasonable of me to ask what happened in this situation tomorrow morning? e.g. saying ds said someone spat on him, could you tell me a little more about what happened and I'd acknowledge that I'm not taking it as definite that that's what went on.

I wouldn't bring this up but have to get off my chest that the spare sweatshirt they sent him home in stank of stale wee (not his I imagine as too stale a smell). Foul.

Am namechanging for this in a fit of paranoia in case the teacher assistant is a Mumsnetter (she seems the type!)

p.s. meant or not on in the thread title.

What do you want to know? If it's true that he was spat at? I'm not sure I understand.

I'd like to know the circumstances so as to be reassured that it wasn't malicious, assuming the teachers know which of course they might not.

The reason for the thread is I want to know if that's a reasonable thing to ask the teacher about or they'll think I'm fussing.

The rant about the stinky sweatshirt was separate.

It is a disgusting thing to happen yes, but in all honesty if it was me I wouldn't approach the teacher about it, I would just let them deal with it in school. Perhaps I'm too laid back!?

I'm wondering if it was more of a spouting a drink at him incident than actual spitting, mainly because although spitting is disgusting it is unlikely to make him wet enough to change his sweatshirt. I think most schools would probably just wipe it off. So maybe it was more of a playful wetting than malicious spitting. I think I would ask what happened though as I returned the now clean smelling spare sweatshirt...

Good point runout. I've just asked ds and he said they weren't drinking at the time and it was during carpet time.

Given he was sat down and it was on his back I suspect it wasn't specifically for him in a bullying way but one of those things as this boy wouldn't particularly have seen who was in front of him?

These things happen. I'm sure the teachers don't have time to let every parent know if their child has been tripped, spat on, shoved etc. As long as the children are being made to say sorry (and it's not ongoing bullying) I'd let it go!

Why was his shirt changed as a child can't spit enough to make a shirt wet?

Maybe the teacher or the TA gave it a sponge wash to remove the spit.
As for the sweatshirt, I tend to take home spare stuff I keep in class every half term and give it a wash, perhaps they didn't notice the smell. Reception, like Y6, can be a bit whiffy at the best of times.

It looked like they'd tried to sponge it off and then it was a bit more wet than it would have been.

It was a class spare rather than ours. It really stank. Should I politely say something about that or not?!?

Do you really need to know the details? And do you want the teacher to apologise for the spare sweatshirt being smelly?

Just wash it and send it back.

You are asking a parent to wash someone else's sweatshirt?
What an unusual idea, obviously didn't occur to the last one who borrowed the spare.

Hardly a huge chore to stick it in the wash is it? It's what I'd do.

Have a special from a grateful teacher.

I would always wash borrowed clothing so am with you on that Missus but honestly re the sweatshirt today it was totally rank not just a bit wiffy. Not nice for ds to come home in something totally stinking of urine.

TBH i'd have more of an issue with an adult putting my DS in something that smelt so obviously of urine. Could the TA/teacher not smell it herself? Surely they had other spares, or even his PE t-shirt or something? I would certainly query that with the teacher. That's bang out of order.