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DD just started yr 1 and in tears at bedtime

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mistressmiggins · 16/09/2009 20:33

she says the teacher made her sit by herself during writing
she says the teachers accused her of copying

I dont believe this and further conversation through tears (hers & me trying not to) she said that they dont play except at golden time and she wants to go back to reception

Im sure its just a settling down period (she is a June baby so one of youngest in class) but should I speak to the teacher?
would it be ok to put a note in her bag for the teacher saying she is upset or will I look over protective?

didnt have any of this with DS

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Lilyloo · 16/09/2009 20:35

I don't think it would do any harm to mention to the teacher that she is finding the transition to year 1 hard , she won't be the first and am sure a good teacher would want to reassure her and help her feel happier about it.

francagoestohollywood · 16/09/2009 20:50

What Lilyloo said. She is only 5 bless her, I can see why she wants to go back to reception!

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mistressmiggins · 16/09/2009 21:10

its heart breaking
my niece is only 4 mths younger and just started reception - suddenly I realise that maybe my little girl is not so big

my DS always takes things in his stride & never moaned....

trouble is I have to work part time & so cant take her tomorrow or pick her up - my mum is picking her up though so will ask her to check with the teacher

everything makes her cry - she had 2 bday invites on same day/same time today so that set her off :-(

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MollieO · 16/09/2009 21:13

You have my sympathy. Ds (also June) started in year 1 too last week. Now doesn't want to go to school or do homework or go to bed. Melt downs every evening.

We have our curriculum meeting tomorrow and from what I can gather from other mums (I don't do the school run) I think we can expect a lecture on the behaviour of our dcs in class!

I am sure your dd is one of many going through the same but it wouldn't hurt to let the teacher know.

Crocky · 16/09/2009 21:21

My dd has also just gone into year 1. Unlike your dd mine actually seems to be enjoying it and has come out of school happy and smiling each evening. But oh what we have to put up with between getting home and bedtime!
She is stropping, stomping and crying at everything. Deliberately trying to get her brother to argue with her. Being an absolute pain at the table and then nearly falling asleep over her tea.
She is absolutely shattered and we are only a week and a half in.
She is a May born so only a couple of weeks older.
It is affecting mine and yours in different way but oh boy is it affecting them.
I am taking things easy with her and trying to make sure she gets plenty of sleep till she adjusts.

Get your mum to have a word.

nellie12 · 16/09/2009 21:26

ds is also struggling.

Tears on going into school and hating it. but I did have a word with his teacher and she is making a big effort to settle him in and he seems to be settling.

It also helped to know the routine of the class so I could talk to him about it and reassure him.

Wandaaa · 16/09/2009 22:17

My DD has also just gone into year 1 and she announced yesterday morning that she was only going to go to school every other day as it was boring and all they do is work, work, work. She is very arty and is missing all the time she spent drawing during free play in reception . At least I managed to persuade her to go with a promise of a trip out to buy even more crafty things for home.

southernbelle77 · 17/09/2009 06:57

My dd (also June born) has just gone into year 1 too. Like Crocky, she seems to be enjoying it quite a lot and isn't too bothered about the 'more work less play' (as she keeps telling me!) thing. However, she is so tired and irritable of an evening. Poor dh walked in last night and she just threw a barrage of abuse at him for no reason whatsoever.
From what I can tell it is quite a big change for them and it is certainly making a lot of them very tired.
We have our information evening next week so will be interesting to see what they are doing etc etc.
Feel for you dd and for you. I'd try and have a word with the teacher and ask if she has been ok at school and how she is getting on as she is very emotional and tired when she gets home.

noideawhereIamgoing · 17/09/2009 09:32

My ds (July baby) also struggled enormously with year one. Really hated the lack of play time...felt very annoyed when he saw the Reception kids having fun while he was stuck in the classroom.
First term he was exhausted too - used to scream and cry everyday on the way home and continue to cry for 30-40mins. By second term he'd stopped crying every day but he just didn't want to go in. Third term he had finally built up the stamina to cope and things started to settle down.
Sorry my words aren't more reassuring, Year 1 was a nightmare for us but it got better, eventually.

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