leaving school

[Skau]

What about once kids
Have left,
Is it up to staff if they
Remain friends with parents

I'm not friends with any of my students parents other than the ones who are also teachers who I've got to know in a professional capacity. I have very little contact with parents and most of it has been professional. When my own kids were little I did become friends with one of the teachers because her son and my ds were best friends but other than that I wouldn't have seen any teachers socially outside of school.

It’s up to anyone who they remain friends with.

If you are friends with a teacher outside of school, going to the gym or whatever it is, then there is no reason to think you wouldn’t still be friends with them. Other than you would see them less organically.

What an odd question. As long as professional boundaries are observed(gdpr, confidentiality etc) social relationships are fine. The school may have a policy regarding current pupil parents and staff.

Why is it odd, if you were friends with a human

The question seems odd , overthinking it. We sometimes still mix with friends whose dc were in same year group as ours and who happened to also teach at the school and taught our younger dc, and another was a governor. That was over 15 years ago now though. Over the years we rarely discussed school matters as it is friendship based.

Are you a teacher or parent? I see on fb some friends friend teachers but they’d add leats be chatting and laughing at the school and might live near to them. It’s like anything, sometimes the stuff you have in common fades

Is there a staff member who has told you they can’t be friends with you any more? I assume they have their reasons for that.

I would try to avoid it personally but if it happened very naturally ie both had the same hobby, I think it would be okay but those professional boundaries would always be there. I would never bad-mouth the school for example.

Your question is worded very oddly so I am not sure what you are really asking.
My mum is friends with one of my primary school teachers - but they didn't re - meet until they were going to the same old lady coffee morning 😂

no the school has

Do you mean the school has said you can't be friends with a former teacher of your child?
If your child no longer attends the school or has any connection to it (other than being a former pupil) why is it their business?

The school has told them they can’t be friends with you? That’s unusual, but there’s probably a reason.

Generally Teachers are friends with parents when there is another point of reference. For example if they share an interest, kids a similar age or live locally.

i know plenty of teachers who are friends with parents because of a church connection.

however, I also know a PE teacher who has stayed ‘friends’ with a family as their child excelled in a sport, parents kept the teacher updated and they’ve become friends -
she’s moved schools now and would occasionally attend bbqs at the family’s house , her husband also became good friends with the mums brother (through being at the same Saturday sports events and having a sports team in common). It’s up to adults if they want to be friends, but you can’t stay in touch with kids unless it’s via adults. Obviously adults getting back in touch with teachers after many years is fine.

Are you talking about socially or romantically? Could the person be using it to avoid getting involved with you?

If you are genuinely friends beyond the school gates then that is fine but if you mean a teacher you are friendly with but don’t see outside of the school currently then you shouldn’t be asking for their private details to stay in touch. People can confuse friendship
and professional relationships