My ds 4 wants patent leather school shoes again (he had them for preschool), Im struggling to find some that are the more trainer style he had from Clarks last year, it seems to be mostly t-bar and Mary Jane styles, I don't care if they come from the girls or boys department I just need a wide fit patent shoe for him, has anyone seen they around? If not would I be a bad parent to let him wear T-bars? He likes the look of them