Think I've upset the teacher

[HopelesslyDevoted2u]

I was taking to another mum outside the school gates about a TA. I said that I like her but the kids think she's horrible. As I said this, I think she may have overheard my comment. I now feel awful for saying it and am extremely anxious about it all. I'm also worried it could affect the way she treats my child in class. How can I stop worrying about it? It's making me ill

I would try not to worry because:

She may not have heard at all
She may not have heard the name
She may not have heard the main comment
And even if she did she may have doubts herself if the TA is a difficult person

I would just try to forget about it and make sure she doesn’t overhear anything like that again.

I think you need to stop worrying as she may not have heard but a lesson learned about gossiping based on children’s hearsay. Not intending to start a ‘bun fight’ but she’ll be working a difficult job for a pittance. I don’t know the circumstances about why the children supposedly don’t like her but if it’s because she’s strict (or along those lines) then she hasn’t done anything wrong

I have to say my kids love the strictest teachers and TAs

My oldest always says Mrs X very strict mum but she’s really fair

Dont worry she probably didnt hear and if she did maybe it will give her food for thought and be a good thing. Might make her reflect on why they dont like her. U didnt mean it. Accept u are worried then let it pass. Dont hold onto it. There is nothing u can do now. I can be standing next to people and if they are talking to me 9 times out of 10 I am not listening to what they are saying I am in my own thoughts so she might not have herd even if she was in ear shot.

I’m sure at the moment my class hate me. I’m having to be very strict because their behaviour is terrible. They probably think me a right nag but it’s necessary.

I would take this as a lesson to stop gossiping about a TA that you’ve never actually seen working with the children. She probably just doesn’t take any crap from them.

This is what happens when you're a school-gate gossip tbh.

How can I stop worrying about it? It's making me ill

Maybe stop bitching at the school about people. That's should help.

Honestly. You are talking about a staff member and you are worried about how it's made you feel

Sorry but what pp job said 🤷🏾‍♀️

DS really doesn't like one of his teachers as she's very strict. She has a reputation throughout the school for it. Which is awkward because she's a close relative. On the plus side, he does like her when she's NOT teaching and is just being 'her'.

As others have said, she'll get over it if she heard it and also there's a lesson here on gossiping based on hearsay.

Amusingly my Y11s quite openly say I'm strict and other staff are. They also respect us a lot more too than the people who they would consider "fun". To quote one "it's like, they're fun but you're the better teachers. I'd hate to have had you in year 8, but I wouldn't want them in GCSE".

Exactly Lola! The strict teachers are often the ones where you learn most IME

You can stop worrying about it by accepting that you were completely inappropriate and slagging off someone who works very hard for a pittance. We're not there to be the children's friends; we're there to help them learn.

I would never treat a child differently because their parent slagged me off. I am far too professional for that, as are my colleagues. Funnily enough we might work in a school but we don't behave like children. You might like to follow suit.

Remember this feeling and learn from it