For anyone who's interested
Meeting with Head of Literacy went very well and I am very impressed with her (even though she's a mere child and how on earth she can be legally married I just do not know ) .... again apologies but systems have been changed so it won't happen to another child and a thorough explanation of how reading is actually taught in his class totally reassured me
I think I was putting too much emphasis on one-to-one and not considering the reading games and ongoing focus
I made some points that are being taken on board .. an open day plus info sheet for parents plus a pool of reading volunteers rather than just reading with yoru child's class and gave her contact details of 5 orgs who do reading volunteers too
oh and DS CAN NOW READ
seriously .. 3 books from school, 1 reading session with teacher and its suddenly clicked .. I knew he was on the verge of it clicking