Is this normal practice?

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Dd2 8 has recently moved school, she has always lacked confidence in the classroom and relied far too much on the TA at her old school, so much so it became a real habbit and dd would repeatedly ask what she should be doing and for instructions to be repeated, when really there should have been no need.
She tells me that at her new school the children are given instructions/told what they have to do and then have to get on with it, they are not allowed (in dd's words) to ask for help and if they need to ask anything they should ask their partner, is this normal practice?

is this yr 3?

IIRC this is the year they move from being spoonfed as it were to more independence in their learning

I do think you could contact school to just double-check, it's easy for a child to slightly misinterpret what they've heard

If she's yr 3, then largely yes she should be able to listen once/read instructions and not need them repeated; yr 3 is really where they start them with more independent learning. I doubt she's absolutely "not allowed" to ask again if really necessary, but I suspect she has been told she really must try much harder not to and to ask her partner first before coming back to teacher again!

Yes Y3, to be honest she needs to be more independent so it is probably a good thing in the long run, just think she could maybe do with easing in a bit first as this will be very new for her and may well send her into a bit of a tizz.

Different school sor teachers have different strategies for 'who to ask for help before I bug the teacher'. I'm currently using SNOT (it makes them laugh!): Self, Neighbour, Other, Teacher is the order in which they seek help. Another similar one is Brain, Book, Buddy, Boss.

YoullNeed that sounds interesting I have never heard those before. Have you had any experiences of using those with SEN? If so, does it work? I'm wondering if SNOT would benefit my DS...but then again DS's class are not to fidget or talk so that may pose a problem

Sorry to hijack OP!

Practically, I was about to ask the same question. Ds is sen and they are worried about over dependence on a ta.

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Asking a friend doesn't work if it's silent working in that session, or if it would simply trigger chatting, but different things suit different teachers, pupils and lessons. I must admit that asking neighbours does not always help if it's a genuine 'I'm really stuck' in maths if we're in ability groups that session, but it certainly helps with the "How many do we do? Which colour should this one be?" type of Qs.