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Is anyone REALLY sad about their offspring starting school?

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YesAnastasia · 01/09/2013 21:45

I am. Is anyone else?

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Queenie72 · 01/09/2013 21:47

I have another year until ds1 starts and it already makes me want to cry and makes me feel so sad!!

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YesAnastasia · 01/09/2013 21:51

Thank god. I looked for a thread about this & I couldn't find one - made me think I was alone in this & I edged closer to a second g&t...

Until today, I purposely haven't been thinking of it but we went to Clarks today and it's hit me.

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Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 01/09/2013 22:05

My youngest starts school this week. She's so excited to be going to big sister's school. I thought I was fine with it and looking forward to some me time at home but now I'm not so sure.

My friends pfb starts school with her and I know for a fact she's dreading it. She's got her dh coming with her for support.

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YesAnastasia · 01/09/2013 22:09

Technically it is just me because you'll probably be emotionally stable this time next year whereas I'm not... at all.

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YesAnastasia · 01/09/2013 22:11

Yes DH has the day off too - it's a massive big deal in this house. Sigh.

Yes he's my PFB but I'm going to really miss him. It's EVERY DAY!

I guess it's easier when you've done it before..?

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ShiftyFades · 01/09/2013 22:40

I got DS's uniform out today to check it fits, he looked like a real schoolboy, no longer my baby Sad

I've got it all ready to wash tomorrow.

I'm welling up just writing this! I thought I was fine about it. But we've only got 2 of "our" days left (I work part time) and then I have to wait for school holidays Sad

I actually feel a little sick at the thought or is it because I will have to work Mondays Blush

WaftyCrank · 01/09/2013 23:50

I'm the same, devastated that my DD is starting school. That sounds way OTT but she's my shadow. We are a duo, wherever I am she's not far behind. She's DC2 and I wasn't this bad when DS1 started!

Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 02/09/2013 00:01

Last time I still had a little one at home.

This time I dont.

Definitely feels different, although it doesn't diminish from the excitement and sadness we felt when dd1 started school because she was the pfb and it was different somehow.

TheDietStartsTomorrow · 02/09/2013 00:04

I cried on the first day of most of DC's first days. I don't think it gets easier. I was crying on number 6 too.

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YesAnastasia · 02/09/2013 00:09

Oh God. I haven't even opened the Marks' package with his uniform in yet! I can't bare it.

I have taken my role as a SAHM very seriously, I love our 'in jokes' and that I understand (almost) every obscure reference to everything. It's so important that I know him. I worry that we won't connect anymore & I won't understand him. It's heartbreaking.

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ThePortlyPinUp · 02/09/2013 00:20

DD4 starts Thursday, I know that she is more than ready but she is still so tiny (age 3 clothes). DD1 starts high school too so I shall be as emotional with her too.

Adikia · 02/09/2013 03:15

I guess it's easier when you've done it before..?

Nope, DS is going into year 5 and I'm still tearful about DD going.

You should of seen my parents when my baby sister (Dads 8th child, Mums 7th) started school, they waited til she was out of sight then walked up the school drive holding hands and crying, then mum spent the whole day getting tearful over stupid things.

lougle · 02/09/2013 07:08

I wad completely ready for months and months. I suddenly wobbled last week Hmm DD3 is so refreshingly individual and genuinely witty (not the bizarre joke that you laugh at to please your child, but an actual, quite sophisticated wit) I suddenly thought 'What if they don't 'get' her and squeeze her into a mould?'

She, on the other hand, is completely breezy about the whole affair.

Purpleprickles · 02/09/2013 07:14

Yep I'm trying not to think too much about it. It's really silly for me as well because he's been in full time Nursery while I've worked as....a Reception teacher Smile I just can't accept that we have got to this point in his life so soon. He is very excited.

Gracie990 · 02/09/2013 07:16

No, we're delighted :-) September born though, so makes a difference.

I also have another one at home.

CockyFox · 02/09/2013 07:20

DD my second child starts school Nursery class so only half days and I am going to miss her so much. I cried when DS started nursery class and again when he left, then when he started reception and July when he finished infant school.
I will probably when I leave him at the Junior school on Wednesday.
It is horrible when you have to leave them but I have always managed to smile and wave and not cry until I am around the corner.

Rooners · 02/09/2013 07:28

Two words: Home ed Smile

Pancakeflipper · 02/09/2013 07:30

DS2 starts on Weds.

I am dreading it. I cry about it before he's even started at night.

I was ok about DS1 starting school. I had DS2 still.And it was an adventure for us all to see what this' school malarkey was all about.

This time I know what it is about. DS2 has been my little friend for the last 4 years. I love hanging around with him. I will miss him so much.

Thankfully he is only doing mornings for the next few weeks to break us parents in gently.

IwishIwasmoreorganised · 02/09/2013 07:33

I felt like I'd lost a limb walking out of school for the first time without ds2.

It was only the first time though!

Meglet · 02/09/2013 07:37

Ha ha gracie! I have a sept born DD (she's a younger sibling too) and the next 48hrs can't go fast enough.

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YesAnastasia · 02/09/2013 07:37

lougle I feel like that!! He can be a talker but is hesitant & stutters a little. I worry no one will have the patience to listen & he'll stop trying.

Don't think I haven't researched that rooners

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ShadeofViolet · 02/09/2013 07:45

DD is so excited. She is born in September so nearly 5.

I on the other hand am feeling sad. We used to have lovely afternoons after preschool in the park, drinking hot chocolates at Costa or swimming. I am happy that she is growing up and becoming a person but it seems to be going so fast :(.

Bicnod · 02/09/2013 07:49

I was awake all night worrying about pfb DS1 starting school this week.

Had a bit of a cry at 5am Blush

I'm going to miss him so much.

Pretty sure he's going to love it but can't help feeling wobbly.

ShiftyFades · 02/09/2013 07:51

Rooners, I have considered that (a friend home eds her 4 DC) but it would only be worse when he decides to leave as a teenager!! I can visualise me hanging onto his ankles as he walks into uni..... That would be mean... Wouldn't it? Wink

dingit · 02/09/2013 07:53

My df said 'you will lose her once she starts school'. That was 10 years ago. I did. Hmm