My DS1 is like that when he has the HLTA cover the main teacher's PPA.
His class teacher he behaves perfectly for.
He says that he respects his class teacher because she "doesn't shout at you for asking for help".
He does have a personality clash with this HLTA, and he's not the only pupil in school to have issues with her.
She tends to treat academically clever DC's like their social development matches their academic development. Which it doesn't always.
Even the other DC's in his class cone up to me and say that she picks on DS1, and sends him out of the class for things that she wouldn't send other DC's out for.
He got sent out at the end of reading last week - because he was so engrossed in his book that he hadn't heard her say that it was the end of reading time. Added to that the fact that he will NOT stop reading halfway down a page (won't at home either), and she saw it as disobedience.
All he did once she had gone up to him and shouted at him to put his book down was to ask if he could just finish that page, please, and according to the other DC's in the class, she went 'loopy'. DS1 didn't even tell me - three of his classmates did. One of them was someone who HATES my DS1, and even she sought he out to tell me.
So, he doesn't respect her because "respect is earned, not automatically given because of age or job title. If she wants my respect, she should stop screaming in my face and show a little self-control".
Yes, he can be an irritating PITA sometimes...
