Are your reception children happy at school?

[educator123]

I'm interested as my dd still says she doesn't want to go and has been crying alot at school. I am considering changing school but I am unsure if she is just unhappy with school or this particular school iyswIm.

My Feb-born DS, last of four, is very happy at school. He is disappointed at weekends when it's not a school day.

Sorry your DD's not happy.

DS is happy he loves his class teacher and friends. Not so keen on music teacher and having to play the glockenspiel quietly then loudly.

I do think this time of year is when it hits children that school is every day.......forever.

What is it that makes her unhappy??

How old is she, is she one of the youngest in the year??

Is her teacher approachable, can you have a word??

DD is currently in reception and totally loving it but she does have the same teacher she had in the nursery attached to the school (although there are 90kids in her class (there are 3 teachers and 3 TAs) and I did worry about her finding it too noisy.

However I know there are a good few kids that still find going into school all day tough and cry at the classroom door

DC 5.4 is going through a phase of saying he hates school however he has lots of friends there, always goes in with a smile, and tells me how much fun he has mean's I'm not worried.

Have you spoken to the teacher?

She was born in April so not a really young one. She doesn't really say why and does go in better than she used too and is doing well in terms of reading etc but has been crying slot and asking for me. Yesterday the teacher said she sat out of PE as she was quite upset and the teacher said she was upset again today and asked me, when I collected my other daughter later from an after school club if younger dd was ok once home and she doesn't think she is un happy generally at school but does keep having these tearful moments.
This evening she was curled up on my bed in the dark looking deep in thought when we checked if she was ok she was saying she doesn't want to go to school.
She is at a small school in a small class so wondering if she just hasn't clicked with anyone as from what she says she only plays with a couple of yr six girls at playtime.

My two love it but being a twin in situations like this is a godsend. Can you get some time with the teacher to ask her if she can help to encourage a friendship? Was your older DD the same?

My ds2 is a july birthday and is happy 60-70% of the time. When he is a bit sad and I ask why he just says he would rather be at home with mummy.

He was never that keen on nursery either.

I presume you've done the usual thing of inviting friends (and their mums) back to play?

Do they have a friendship bench??

I would ask the teacher to try and encourage a friendship with someone she gets on with.

How about asking a child back for tea?

my older daughter was upset going in for a few weeks tears at the door. And sometimes for a couple of days after a school holiday but ok after initially settling in period but my second is a sensitive soul, deep thinker. It is tricky as she was one of eight starting four boys and four girls but like I say she hasn't clicked with anyone.

I am wondering whether she would be better suited to a small one form entry or maybe that would be more overwhelming.

The one girl she occasional mentions doesn't like to go to play at anyone's house, we have asked several times. I love the small school environment for many reasons but I think in terms of friendship it can be tricky my eldest went in as one of five and is best best friends with another girl which has been lovely except that said child is now leaving so I could potentially have two daughters struggling a bit :(

Can she play with her sibling in the playground? DD and DS look out for each other in the playground (which is sweet considering how much they fight at home ). Could you ask a LSA/dinner lady to keep an eye on her?

Does she maybe have separation anxiety from you?