Meeting with teacher & head - any suggestions??

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My dd (yr2)has had a lot of abscences this year due to lots of illnesses, school have requested a meeting to discuss this along with some concerns they have for dd - emotionally. She's an august bday & although ok academically quite immature socially. She was really happy in class but since the illnesses started in Jan isn't so keen, friendships have changed a bit & she feels on the outside of things, often feeling unwell & feels that no one understands her or believes she's ill including the staff. It's a tough one as I know she has genuinely has been ill but when well is ok but then will pick up another bug & be off again so I can see how it appears that it could be I don'twanttogotoschoolitis! Obviously I will be asking how they/we can help her socially but wondering what else \i can ask. Strangely she was quite high achieving, 10/10 in spellings etc, top reading band but since being off although to me seems as good as before ie - gets spellings right when at home she is only getting half on them right & just seems to be struggling a bit compared to before, not sure whether thats a confidence thing or if she's giving up. Any ideas/suggestions appreciated

Not personally know but I do know someone who's been through this and basically, it was just really to find out more about what is happening and what the school can do to support the child. It might be possible, for example, that they'll organise for the child to see the educational psychologist for a few sessions. If so go with that. You know that this isn't just your daughter not wanting to go to school, but at the same time, missing so much of school isn't just hurting her academically but socially as well. This could be stressing her out, and stress lowers the immune system so she gets another bug, and the cycle repeats.

Thank you gategipsy

They will not arrange for her to see an ed psych based on Op. I imagine it is to offer support ask about illnesses and highlight how her absences are affecting her academically and socially. All you can do is explain you are also concerned that she doesn't fall behind and ask them to help her get reestablished in her friendship group. I would also send her in whenever you can and perhaps be more likely to send her when she has a bit of a cold or a minor illness with the proviso that they can call you if they think she is struggling and needs to be at home. Obviously when very ill she can't be there.

Pretty much as cansu said. If she has missed lots of school, she has missed lots of lessons and lots of learning. Her confidence has probably taken a knock and it may take a little time to get her back to the confidence levels she had before the absences.
Also girls of that age change allegiances very quickly at playtimes. Again, her confidence might have nose dived.
You and the school want the best outcome for your DD - work with them to see how you can both support her through this.

Thank you everyone, I'm not worried about the meeting but want to make sure I get the most out of it iyswim, so your ideas are all appreciated.