Help me to relax please

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I think i am becoming an over anxious controlling mum! Even though ds is doing well i worry about him progressing and staying in top groups. I wish i could just relax and be glad he enjoys school and trust him to just get on with it.

Chill !!!

You still have insight so there is hope for you. Relax indeed.

I have decided that from now on i won't quiz him about what he has done at school but wait for him to tell me. (He can never remember anyway). How can i take a more relaxed approach to getting him to do his homework? I feel i can't rely on school to teach a class of 30 without back up from home, but is that me not wanting to give up control over my ds?

Not really. You started teaching him at home a very long time before we went to school! Children don't stop learning at 3.30pm.

Do you have actual concerns about his school or progression or is it a bit more abstract than that?

Try thinking about it in the way that school is not just for the purposes of academic education. Children need to learn to co-exist with others, organise themselves, understand different ways of communicating and learning, learn through play, socialise, physical development. There is so much more to all round development of a child, and all these things have an impact on their future - don't get bogged down with results and test scores!