Party invite advice apprieciated

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Dd is in yr one. Last Yr she had joint party with a boy in her class. This was fine but far too mAny kids as Yr group of 60. Not fancying that again!

This Yr she is sharing with Ds as birthdays only ten days apart

I want to keep nos down so planning to invite all the girls in her class (not the other class) plus 4 boys leaving out approx 13-14 boys she never plays with

I need to leave room for Ds friends plus friends from out of school

Is this acceptable? Threads on Aibu about parties making me nervous!
Thanks

yes it's fine
you'll never please everyone on here or outside in real life - do what's best for your family (and finanaces!)

Yes, sounds fine to me.

That sounds fine.

Sounds a lot to be honest! It depends what you are doing but I wouldn't want to go above 20 kids (preferrably 15) unless you have lots of help.
I used to make my DD choose between the girls in her class, just make sure there are more than 2 or 3 left out (5 seems fairly safe).

It's ok.

If you were leaving out 3-4, that would seem pointed, but 13-14 is ok.

Invite who you want. It gets way too expensive. You can't please everyone and as long as your kids gave great birthdays that's all that matters.

leaving out 5 or more seems about right, so leaving out 15 no problem.

Yes sounds fine to me.

You are leaving out more than half the boys, sounds normal

If you were just leaving out 1 girl and 2 boys I'd question it

Completely agree with everyone else - absolutely fine (it's where 1 or 2 are left out that it seems mean).

It sounds fine. By Year 2, most children at dcs' school have parties for between 8-15 children.

Sounds fine, but a hell of a lot of children for one party!

1. make sure if your DD goes to a party you invite the kid back to her party
2. inviting 50% of class or less - fine, inviting 80% and leaving a few out not fine.
3. be flexible, you may get non-invited kids turn up (ir asking to come) - one or two extra doesn't matter.
4. someone will always be pissed off - accept it

Thanks all. DD's class is very boy heavy so there will only be about 12 girls plus my sons pre school chums (8) and a few out of school friends
It's a play area and we have exclusive hire so nos not a issue. Just want to avoid the chaos of last yr. Two classes plus uninvited siblings abandoned by parents Arghhhhh
All the soft play round here do exclusive hire so it's good prices compared to paying per head for a more traditional party
Anyways thanks.