How can this stage be harder than babies?

[Tweenangst]

Hi, I'm new to MN so please be patient. Just wanted to ask if anyone else find this stage (2 DD's 9 &10) harder than babies, toddlers, little kids. I am trying to choose my battles but it seems that every day a new little mini war is raging between them both and/or with me! God help me when the teenage years hit.

That is reassuring to know 5madthings (ie that even experienced mothers find it difficult sometimes) because I always worry that it is because dd is an 'only' that her behaviour is sometimes so challenging.

Slightly worrying though in terms of what is to come!!!