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Preschool education

Get advice from other Mumsnetters to find the best nursery for your child on our Preschool forum.

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Mummy I dont like you! You hit me! sob sob

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QuintessentialShadows · 20/08/2008 23:46

Third day in his new Preschool. Appears to love it. But this evening he was really moody. As I was getting him ready for bed, he suddenly burst out crying saying "mummy I dont like you" I say "oh no, that is sad, why do you not like me?" "You HIT me".
I havent hit him.
Then he ran away from me and into his bed.

As if I am not feeling guilty enough for letting him go full time to preschool after having him with me without any childcare since March.

You reckon it is a reaction to suddenly being separated from me so much more?

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BoysAreLikeDogs · 20/08/2008 23:55

Yes, I should think that's the reason.

Awwwww

Bowddee · 20/08/2008 23:56

DS has started coming out with little porkie-pies like that. So it could just be a phase. I have a special look (or so DH says) that's become my "Are you telling the truth?" look. DS will normal crack under such pressure.

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QuintessentialShadows · 20/08/2008 23:57

I dont want to be away from him so much. He is "my little lovely". So totally gorgeous and happy and smily and loving. And now THEY are going to have all the fun with him, instead of me. I just want to scoop him up and shower him in kisses.

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QuintessentialShadows · 20/08/2008 23:57

Hope it is just a phase.

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BoysAreLikeDogs · 21/08/2008 00:02

Just a phase

'This too shall pass'

[squeezes QS's hand]

S1ur · 21/08/2008 00:07

He loves being with you.
Preschool will be fun in a totally different way.
HE will still love playing with you in all the 90% of the time.

Its a difficult transition, don't suppose you could ease him in with a few afternoons first?

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QuintessentialShadows · 21/08/2008 11:23

He did not want to go to preschool today. He was saying with pleading eyes "Mummy, dont leave me here". sob

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S1ur · 21/08/2008 14:33

Oh QS that is really tough , have you had a chance to talk to the staff there about how he is getting on and how they could help him ease into it a bit?

There are lots of things they and you could try... It might be a particular little thing about preschool that is bothering him and affecting his experience.

Is he happy about the toilets there? That is often a worry for children. Maybe it would help to try and find out if there is a 'something' in particular or if he's just getting used to not being with you.

How about drawing pictures of preschool together, things that we like, things that we do, things that we don't like.

If it is that he misses you then how about giving him something of yours to take with him and hold when he needs to.
Or something I used to do with dd for a bit was out it into a story.

Ours was about a monkey who missed her mummy but really wanted to go and play, so her mummy hid a picture of herself smiling in the little monkey's head and then everytime she missed her she could just look at the picture and it would make her smile and she could go and carrying on playing.

I'm sure it will get easier.

onwardandupward · 21/08/2008 16:34

Could he go less days a week? For some children it's a complete shock when they realise that preschool or whatever wasn't just an adventure for a day or two, they are expected to go X days a week

You'll know as the Mummy whether it's just settling in wobbles or whether it's not suiting him. If the latter, does he have to go for your work or something? If not, you can always pull him out and try again after Christmas.

S1ur · 21/08/2008 18:11

QS how did he get on?

FrannyandZooey · 21/08/2008 18:14

do you work? if he doesn't want to go and you don't want him to go and you don't NEED him to go, it sounds like a no brainer, tbh

I do understand if you need him to go for whatever reason, but otherwise...

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QuintessentialShadows · 21/08/2008 21:12

Slur, it went much better today.
It also helped that he did not fall asleep in the car on the way home, and was therefore his usual happy self and we got some time together before the day was over.

FZ, I work. I have been without childcare due to move to another country since April, I am so behind, you wouldnt believe it. (Doing accounting work for our own business) Nurseries/Preschools have ONE intake per year, in August. Since April I have been a full time mum in the day time, sometimes had to work with him playing next to me which has been fine in small doses, an hour now and then after dinner when dh has been around, but the bulk between 9 pm and 1 am.... I am exhausted. From next week I need to crack on and get on top of things.

In comparison, we had au pairs in London, and part time nursery, kiddikicks and gymboree on the days I had him. (Only work part time to get to spend some time with the kids.)

I should be working from 9-3. Short days, in order to enjoy some time with them before they get too knackered. I love being able to be flexible. I am in a way really lucky that we can do it this way.

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S1ur · 21/08/2008 21:19

Glad to hear it QS, keep us posted.

It isn't easy to work and have children and the transition is always hardest. It really will get easier, it is more about how you can make it more gentle for ds and yourself too.

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QuintessentialShadows · 21/08/2008 23:46

Thanks guys. Hopefully tomorrow will be good too.

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