Do your DC tell you what they've been doing at Pre-school?

[Bodkin]

It's like trying to get blood out of a stone getting DD1 (just 4) to tell me anything about what she's been doing. Occasionally under a bit of gentle probing she will tell me who she played with, but as far activities go, no chance.

I got her "report" (not sure of the technical term for it - the stepping stones thing) today, and it made really interesting reading - I found out she was the princess the other day when they did "there was a princess long ago" I thought she would have been desperate to tell me that (she loves all the fairytale stuff at the mo) but she never even mentioned it.

Are all pre-schoolers like this, or is mine just not very forthcoming?

Also have dd1, just 4

She never tells me anything, either. If I leave it and don't bother to harass her, little bits and pieces come out in a slightly random fashion...

If I do ask, she says either a) It's a secret; or b) I can't remember

I am a nosy cow so find this truly irksome

DS1 (3.75yrs), tells me NOTHING. Nada, he knows I want to know, so he thinks it is funny to withhold.

ds1 just 4 says 'I'm not telling you' but whatever he does he loves it. I'm nosey too and want to know

ds used to - under pressure when I threatened not to take him the next day unless he told me three things he had done that morning. usually;

1. had snack
2. had playtime
3. umm, urrr, ummm, then gave some minor scrap of information.

Now he is at school he doesn't, mainly because he has to go so I can't threaten not to take him

Oh, that's reassuring, sort of!

I wonder if she'll ever divulge the secrets of her educational establishments, or is it just a 4 year old "thing"

My 3.5 is the same if I ask I get nothing. If I just pick him up and say nothing eventualy its too much for him and he starts to tell! I got really worried as all he used to tell me was he played on his own and had no friends when I spoke to teh teacher she told me he's really popular and is rarely on his own!!

my DD 2.9yrs sometimes tells me but other times is like getting blood out of a stone!

As an ex-pre-school assistant I can assure you all that this sort of thing is very normal! Children have very short attention spans so they are please to see you and want to get on with the next thing.

What should be happening is that your child's keyworker should give you a brief outline of your child's time with them and if you don't get to see them ask another member of staff. They are always happy to tell you - that is there job!

Having 3 dc's myself, it does'nt get any better when they go to school either.
They will tell you in the end in their own special way!

ds does nothing. He plays with no-one

Except the other day when Johny poked George in the eye with a dinosaur. I heard ALL about that...

"I dunno" from dd1 (nearly 4).

Sometimes (with probing questions) she can remember the snack, or if someone was particularly naughty.

ds1 would never talk about his day.
ds2 would talk your ear off. he made it all up, but it was nice to be humoured

ha x posts with fp....why do they remember the violence????

FunnyPeculiar - I was about to post the same thing
I did Nothing (emphasis on the No of Nothing)
I played with No one (emphasis on the No of No-one)

every now and then he tells me something that I love
today they had sally starfish in story corner and when they held sally starfish they had to say something that they were really good at.
DS1 said " I am really good at playing with cars"

[pride emotion]

Funny thread and so true. My DS (also 4) always 'plays with x and x and x' and nothing else. Ever. Apparently. Despite the fact that two of those three kids aren't in his class any more.

Does you pre-school have parent helpers? why not volunteer then you'll know what she does.
And anyway most pre-schools have a timetable of activities for the parents to look at.
AB

dd used too never tell me anything but now she's in her second year and a bit older (5 in a few weeks) she's really keen to tell me whats she's done

exactly the same. i picked up a technique from a SALT I did work experience with. sometimes if you make a statement 'oh I saw that Sarah was at school today.' you get a little bit back, whereas with questions they clam up. i've occasionally found this to work.

Same with DS (3yrs). I agree with Fruitymama, once he is in the car on the way home it's time for snacks/cuddles and home things, so preschool is over. I'm often regaled with a good story about something he did by one of the teachers, so I don't feel I'm missing out on anything. I guess if there was a major breakthrough (he started reading Thoreau, or mastered complex division ), they'd let me know. Otherwise I'm happy that he's happy.

Sometimes I think it's because he's still so 'attached' to Mummy that he isn't so sure that I wasn't actually seeing it and doing it all right along with him, so shouldn't I just 'know' what was going on?

However, I'm hoping this will completely stop once he's an adolescent and I'll want to know every last detail of his every waking moment out of my sight.