Baby born at 17 weeks

[FunKhakiTurtle]

Hi,
I recently went into labour at 17 weeks. My baby was born breathing and moving but obviously could not survive so young.
I've had two previous pregnancies with no issues. This pregnancy so far had been fine, just a Low Papp A result of 0.28 from testing at 12 weeks.
I've consented to a post mortem and testing of placenta etc.

As baby was born with signs of life I have to register the birth and death. I'm not sure what the sex of my baby is. The midwives said they couldn't say unless they were wrong. I really want to give baby a name before we register.
The post mortem will tell me what the sex is but it may take longer than 6 weeks and I only have 6 weeks to register my baby.

Has anyone else been in this situation?
Would I be able to clearly see the sexual organs if it was a boy? I could not see anything.
I'm just looking for support. Me and my husband are heart broken. I feel like I have failed my baby.

I’m so so sorry you are going through this.
I lost a baby boy at 14 weeks last year and I could clearly see his tiny penis.

I find it strange the midwives said that to be honest.

I’m so sorry for your loss.

I am so sorry for your loss. It must be unbearable. I suspect the midwife couldn’t be sure and didn’t want to tell you something that later turned out to be wrong.
could you close a lovely name that would fit both sexes? Something like Charlie or Rory?

Thank you both for the reply. I think I posted this in the wrong forum. I'm going to repost in pregnancy and loss.

If you just report your first post MN will move it to wherever you want.

Agree with pp that perhaps a unisex name.. Charlie, Frankie, Alex, Cameron, Blake, Robin, Ashley etc would be good. X

I am so deeply sorry for your loss.