Hello,
I wanted to make a post to get some opinions and suggestions from other people that don’t have a bias opinion towards the situation. Thank you in advance for reading and helping me through this process if you feel comfortable to do so. I would really appreciate any comments and feedback.
Background information: I’m 25 year old, female, 6 weeks pregnant and didn’t expect to get pregnant. My boyfriend and I have been together almost 5 years. We are planning on getting married, moving out and having kids just didn’t think it would happen before we got married or lived together.
Current situation: I found out I was pregnant at 3 1/2 weeks, the abortion clinic said I couldn’t get the abortion till 6 weeks and their first available appointment was at 7 weeks. Today is Thursday and my appointment is Tuesday (5 days away). I have been having second thoughts and going back and forth on this decision since I found out. I made the appointment just to have the option if I need. My boyfriend and Parents are very supportive and have been trying to help me through this process. I keep going back and forth on my decisions and I think I need some outside advice/perceptive.
Keep the baby:
- Not in my plan (Marriage, move out, baby)
- Still living at home (good and bad, can get support from my family but doesn’t feel how I wanted it to be)
- Can my partner and I financially support a baby well in school and working part time jobs
- I’m scared for the body changes the pregnancy has
- What others with think about me and the stigma around it
- I have been feeling behind in life due to economy and education length (I want to go to med school)
- I know you can never regret having a baby, but will I look back in 5-7 years and wish I had waited
- Will my boyfriend resent me for making this decision that does change our life forever
- Not being able to travel and live life with a kid
- The last 6 weeks have not been the best for me, I’m on AGAD medication and I feel that they are not working. I don’t feel like myself, very unfocused, mean, aggressive, don’t have a filter, have really high high and really low lows. Can I do that for another 7 months well in school.
Terminating the pregnancy:
- I fear my mental heath is going to take a really hard hit as I have a history of mental health struggles
- I fear I will regret my decision and dwell on the decision I made
- If I terminate then I can continue on with my life’s plan and the road I want to take.
- I’m scared for the medical procedure (medicine) and the side effects it will have on my body
- Can I live with myself after doing it?
- If I don’t keep it and wait for a better time when we’re both done school and financially stable I will be to old to have kids or being told I will have trouble having kids because of my age
- Will I be able to continue school that I need to get done by October 1, will the abortion effect me to the point that I can’t function normally for a few weeks.
I know this all seems like extreme what ifs and fears that might not even be something that should be on my mind but I dwell, overthink, over analyze everything little thing. I don’t want to make this choice but I know I have to as there is a time limit. Thank you for your help!