Coming to terms with my husband not wanting a third child

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I’m wondering if anyone has been through this before and can offer some advice/explain how they got through.
I have two beautiful children and I am beyond grateful for them but I desperately long for a third child. My husband is firm two is right for him but I feel heart broken over this decision. I always pictured a big family and how that would look when I’m old and have a lot of grandchildren. I can’t believe I will never be pregnant again, never hold another precious newborn. My children ask for a sibling every often and when I see them with other babies, they are so sweet with them I could cry. I have tried for a while to accept and let my heart heal but I am struggling. I feel like the window is closing my kids are 9 and 6 I’m in my late 30s. I know my husband isn’t changing his mind. How do I get over this heartbreak?

There are no guarantees of grandchildren.

My 2 are similar ages and I am already early 40s. I think we are too old now and the gaps are too big but I struggle with regret that I didn't push it more 2/3 years ago. My DP has always been a hard no but would have been supportive in the event. I feel sad every month when my period comes, even though there's zero or close to zero chance of being pregnant! Im hoping it's my ovaries going for a clearance sale and I will be over it in a few years, but I thought that 39 would be the emotional cut off and it hasn't been!

Hi,
I feel like I could of written this myself. I have two who are 11 and 8 and i'm in my later 30's now but honestly feel better than I did in my 20's! I have a desperate feeling to have one more and my husband is super happy with where we are which I obviously am too and life sure is easier, but wow the hormones are relentless so i'm not sure if its my ticking clock making me panic (I've been told I have LOR) or if its because I actually would like another one. Either way I know I cannot force my husband to change his mind and I wouldn't risk our relationship forcing it so i'm having to make my peace with it and enjoy all the things I couldn't do with another baby/child in the house.
Or maybe have a oopsie (I joke) 😅

It feels better to know others are struggling the same. Not many people I can talk to about this when I do they say idk what wrong with your husband or just “make it happen”. I try to explain the guilt that would come with that.
I keep thinking as well that age would make me stop wanting but I just keep pushing back my cut off age. I do hope and think in 10 years from now I’ll be content with this is how my family was always meant to be and it is complete.

I agree, I feel like there would be an element of karma if you forced an 'accident' and then something went wrong with the pregnancy or the child had health issues. And of course a child should be wanted.

Agree about pushing back the cut off age. I would be looking at giving birth at 42 now so I'm afraid you may still have a delivery years of agonising!

It’s true, what I want wouldn’t happen with an oopsie. I’d want my husband to be excited with me and not wondering if he’s not happy the whole time.
some days I’m so content and other my heart is just longing.