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Unexpected pregnancy with two young children and autism assessment underway

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Maggie199408 · 11/05/2026 14:16

I found out yesterday I am pregnant again daughter is 8 months son is 3 years old but is going through the process of being diagnosed with autsim hes non verbal and currently in fight for DLA and EHCP which got declined very stressful time. My daughter was not a good sleeper only just started getting better I am in plans to buy a house end of this year start of next I can't bring this forward as money wise and my car is small does not fit a double pushchair let alone a double and single (my son doesnt walk out and about due to his autism) we got lots of issues with having another this wasnt planned i was doing NFP and I tracked with strips...still don't understand how it happened as he has been diagnosed with low fertility and I am pumping so our odds was very low and we did it 5/6 days before I ovulated so our chances was super low due to all these things combined yes mistakes were made we understand that and are in shock....I have a abortion telephone appointment booked for thursday my house is a town house 2 bedrooms very small im not sure how 3 especially 2u2 and 1 ASD child will work?

My question is if you was in my shoes what would you do?? Anyone been in my shoes?? Any advice suggestions opinions welcome just no "you shouldn't of done it if you couldn't have it" yes I am wellllllll aware!!!!

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KatieBee25 · 18/05/2026 07:38

Again didn't want to read and run but no real advice apart from whatever decision you make I hope you have the right support around you. Your reasons for not having another baby are so valid as what you are describing is really hard work for you.
I had an abortion in November and still struggle with the guilt and feelings of wanting another baby daily, although I know practically and for my other three children I had to make that choice, but it js so bloody hard
I would reccomend talking to someone after to help you process, I have only recently started doing this!
sending you lots of love and hope everything went okay with the phone call etc. x

KatieBee25 · 18/05/2026 07:41

Also just to add on, I also had an accidental pregnancy from natural family planning! So no judgement from me! I have three children 9,7 and now 2. At the time she was 18 months! My first son has issues and is currently having some support from CAHMS who are talking about an ASD assessment so I really feel your plain having a child with additional needs. It was part of the reason I knew we couldn't cope with a 4th at that time. Xxx

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