Abortion without telling my husband

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I have just found out I’m pregnant. It’s still very early days.

For various reasons I absolutely cannot have another child and I’ve already made up my mind to have an abortion.

My problem is that my DH would absolutely not support my decision to have an abortion. He is completely against it and his family would be the same. The fallout would be huge.

I’m of the opinion that it’s my body and so it’s my choice. I’m seriously considering not telling him because I don’t have the emotional energy right now to deal with the consequences, it would probably end my marriage and ruin my relationship with my in-laws.

Has anyone ever been it this situation and what did you do?

Do what you have to do. Honesty isn't always the best policy.

Wishing you well

Absolutely don't tell him, and I'm so sorry you find yourself having to make this decision, but that being said, please don't follow a previous posters advice and call it a miscarriage, I can't think of anything more disgusting than that.

Thank you all so much for the advice. I feel a lot better after reading your replies.

That’s a really good point that I probably need to mention it to someone in case I need further medical attention. I do have an auntie that I could stay with. The dc and I have done that before. She wouldn’t approve and might try to talk me out of it but equally she would be there for me.

I just want it over as quickly as possible. I will contact my Auntie later on when my h goes to work.

Good luck OP, I hope you are ok.

I definitely wouldn't tell either, this is totally your choice.