18 weeks pregnancy and I don't want the baby

[Kathryn2014]

I just wanted some help, I really don't want this baby and I don't know what to do i feel awful:(

It's so hard :( he already made threats about taking baby when he/she is here I've been in a violent relationship before but the mental abuse is far worse and no he's not the farther to the other 2 x

Think very carefully, having the baby would mean you're tied to him forever and it sounds very much like he would use this as a means to try and control you.

Sorry your going through this OP, its common for abusive men to get women pregnant so they can use the baby to control them. Maybe discuss this with womens aid, they will have dealt with similar before and will be able to advise you with the pregnancy, non molestation orders and everything else.

You need to seek help OP.
If termination is the right choice for YOU then go for it.
You need to get far far away from this hideous.
Womens aid and the places other poster have pointed to can help

This 'man' doesn't get to choose what you do with your body.

Do you have anyone to help you get away from him safely so you can make a decision for yourself without being bullied

The threats are to control you and take your choices away.

Whatever you do he will continue using threats to try and control you, so all you can do is make the best decision for you regardless of his threats and seek support from Women's Aid and the police as appropriate to deal with his threats and abuse.

When you make your own choices you take his power away.

It doesn't matter if he's been violent yet, he's being abusive and you can and should ask for help from all the agencies the to help and protect you from him.

I’m so sorry you’re in this situation. Can you talk to your GP and tell them? If there any way you could tell him you miscarried again?

You need to leave this man and having the baby would tie you to him forever.

Hi there,

We think the robust nature of AIBU is probably not the right place for this thread so we are going to move it to the Pregnancy Choices area in a moment OP.

Honestly if he is as abusive as he sounds then staying with this man risks social care becoming involved not only with this baby but with your other children also, especially once your midwife starts to notice worrying signs / behaviour in you or he shows his true colours in public.

For yours and your children’s sake you need to leave him and get far far away, seek police help if needed. If you are only keeping this baby for him that’s a bad decision, you will be tied to him forever, he will have control over you forever.

I never ever say this but in your shoes I would terminate and run, better the termination of one baby then risk ruining the lives of all my children.

Hi Kathryn how are you feeling ❤️