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Pregnancy choices

This topic is for sharing experiences of pregnancy choices; to debate the ethics of termination, visit our Politics or Chat forums.

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Failed medical abortion

15 replies

ksr881113 · 01/11/2017 13:22

Hey,
Really need some advice. I fell pregnant on the pill - I already have two children, one of which got diagnosed with a life-long illness two months ago which means he needs a lot of care.
Anyway, my partner didn't want the baby and I was worried about not being able to cope, I decided to have a medical abortion.
It seemed to go okay, I passed a clot then bled for 8 days.
My partner and I have since split up, as he really isn't a very nice man (he's not my two children's father)
I took a pregnancy test two weeks after the abortion which was positive, so I waited another two weeks... Still positive...
Had a scan today and it shows the abortion failed, the baby is still alive! And I'm 13 weeks.

The clinic I went to have advised me not to keep the baby but I can't help feeling that it's fate. I really can't abort a 13 week old fetus, it's just too far along now.

I was wondering if anyone else has had a failed abortion and gone on to have the baby?
If so was the baby healthy? I'd like to hear stories good or bad.

Thank you.

OP posts:

Topaz89 · 01/11/2017 14:54

Aww I really hope the baby is healthy. I haven't had one that failed so can't advise you, but I just wanted to say best of luck

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ksr881113 · 01/11/2017 20:35

Thank you!

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Primaryteach87 · 01/11/2017 20:38

Best wishes OP, hope baby is healthy. Xxx

Swizzlesticks23 · 01/11/2017 20:40

Hi op. I don't know if you believe in fate but something tells me this was supposed to happen. Once is bad luck twice is a sign.

Best of luck to you both.

Xxx

SandSnakeofDorne · 01/11/2017 20:46

Did the clinic talk to you about why they recommend termination? You need to properly understand the increased risk of birth defects before you make a decision. Good luck, I hope it works out for you.

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ksr881113 · 02/11/2017 11:12

Thank you everyone, I keep thinking it's a sign too.
And yes, the clinic said there is a risk of abnormalities, but the risk is small
Xxx

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Annabelle4 · 02/11/2017 11:16

If I were you I'd go for a detailed scan ASAP

Annabelle4 · 03/11/2017 21:19

Any update OP?

I keep thinking about you

flutterby12 · 03/11/2017 21:21

Something tells me this baby is meant to be. I hope you're ok

misslost · 06/11/2017 22:31

I read its a very small risk, smaller than down's syndrome, if my medical had 100% failed I would have kept it, good luck to you. x

SandSnakeofDorne · 07/11/2017 07:05

The risk level depends on the drug used. One of them has a one in ten risk of birth defects.

Catalufa · 07/11/2017 07:08

How do you feel you would cope if the baby was born with abnormalities (given that you already have a DC with significant needs)? Sorry to be doom and gloom but you have to be realistic.

Lilllyl · 07/02/2021 18:20

@ksr881113.. Hy I know it's been a long time I'm sorry hope you are well....... I'would like to know since you saying you had medical termination and it failed.... Did you have periods or spotting after a month??? Thanks you

Karlyww · 03/07/2021 19:50

Hi I'm in the same position as you are now. 13.2 weeks after a failed medical abortion. Is it possible you could please let me know the rest of your story xx

Laydaixox · 10/04/2023 13:40

Hello Karlyww is there any update on your baby and can you tell me what pill you took? I took misoprostol 2 vaginally and 4 orally at 11dpo. Failed! Fastforward to now, my baby was supposed to be 7 weeks 2 days, but was measuring 5 weeks 5 days. And did you have a healthy baby?

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