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Help me please. Pregnant, scared and don't know what to do :(

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paranoidmummy · 14/01/2009 10:39

Hey,

Can I please have some advice? I have one ds (5) and another ds of 9 months. Ds2 is profoundly deaf (a recessive genetic thing with no other probs attached but 1 in 4 chance of future babies having the same)and is currently being assessed for a cochlear implant. We are hoping he will be operated on around April/May this yr but will need lots of attention from me and SALT to get his language skills age appropriate.

I have also just had a big financial blow so having to return to work in 3 wks part time (ds2 will go to nursery). This is all very scary in its own right.We cannot afford for me not to work as far as I can see.

Now, here comes the big blow... I'd been feeling generally shitty and my periods have been pretty random since stopping breastfeeding in nov. We have used condoms RELIGOUSLY so I thought I'd take a preg test yesterday just to put my mind at rest... you can guess the result . I don't know what to do... I always wanted another child but we are struggling financially and ds2 will need so much attention over the coming year . I can't speak to anyone in RL about it cos we don't want people knowing especially if I have no choice but to end the preg . I'm so sad, I don't know how this happened, we've been SO careful. Part of me feels its happened for a reason but the rational part of me knows this is really bad timing.

Please can someone make this decision for me ;). Or send me a million pounds. No, really, I just need someone whose not involved to give their opinion, I'm a wreck

Thank you xXx

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Denny185 · 16/01/2009 19:20

So glad you have such a supportive DH and wishing you all the best over the next couple of months. xx

beautifulgirls · 17/01/2009 15:43

Great news - hope the CVS gives you good results. As for your boss your DH is right. Don't forget you have rights as a mother too. He can not fire you for having another baby and having let you work part time has no good excuse legally to not let you carry on doing it after your maternity leave. Make sure you stand up for yourself if there is any sign of your job security failing and make sure you scream "legal action" at them. They will soon change their mind.

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