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Baby’s last name

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caitx747 · 19/03/2025 09:40

What happens if you and baby’s dad can’t agree on whose name baby should take. I’m due to give birth in the next couple weeks and I’m not with the baby’s dad and would like them to take my last name. He doesn’t agree with this so just wondering what happens if we can’t agree and who gets the final say.

I haven’t seen the baby’s dad since I found out I was pregnant (we are also both 19) and whilst he has said he wants to be in baby’s life and I’m hopeful he will, I don’t want baby to have his last name and him decide to not be involved. I’m also not keen on double barreling as I think the name is too long and our last names don’t really go.

he has since said that he could settle for his last name being their middle name but I already have a middle name picked out as I would like it to be after my Nan so I’m not sure what to say

What’s your thoughts??

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whatsappdoc · 20/03/2025 17:28

And don’t put him on the birth certificate! Can’t believe someone recommended that

Katherina198819 · 20/03/2025 18:19

SemperIdem · 19/03/2025 09:58

Your last name. You’re not together, are unlikely to be so in the future and whether he stays true to being an involved father very much remains to be seen.

I wouldn’t indulge his last name as a middle name personally.

This!
You are carrying the baby, will give birth and will care for them.
You shouldn't give his last name just because he might be around.

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