Pregnancy at 40 year old! What would you do?

[2025almostthere]

I just turned 40, blessed with 3 boys from a previous relationship (eldest 16, youngest 9). I just found out I am pregnant and I am completely panicking. I am with a new partner, really love him, feeling really maternal, but at the same time petrified of another pregnancy especially given the age gap with my kids. For context, I also had pre-eclampsia at the age of 28, I lost my second baby at 8 months pregnant and almost lost my life (this was 12 years ago). I went on to have 2 other boys with no complications since, but given my age I am v scared of complications but also v worried of the age difference between the kids.

What would you do in my shoes?

Honestly I'd terminate, too many risks and at 40 with older children i just don't think it would be wise.

What does your partner think? Have you told your other children?

I am about to turn 40 and there is no way I would want a baby. Yes I'm married so a different relationship situation. My one and only is 11 and I'm looking forward to having time for myself a bit, improving my career, and some more money now the childcare years are over.

It would depend on my situation. Single I wouldn’t do it if I had other children. Single and no kids and financially able to support I would. With a loving partner I most definitely would regardless if I had other kids or not.

Well, with regards to my partner we are getting married in Jan next year. He is miles away from my ex and I think that's what's making the decision harder in a way...he is supportive of my decision either ways, but obviously he is worried about health risks for me and also potential health risks to kids born to older parents and us not having the energy for raising twins...there is a lot to consider

I obviously didn't tell the kids yet, far too early plus not sure if I want to keep the pregnancy.