Don't know what to do

[beckw9576]

I’ve recently found out I’m pregnant. Got my positive test 2 days ago. I’m 4 weeks. We were trying for our third and final baby and was so excited and now it’s happened I just feel overwhelmed and sad, I keep crying and had a panic attack in the bathroom earlier and nobody knew, I feel like I’ve made the wrong choice and I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I keep thinking is this fair on our other children, will we manage, will we manage financially, my partner expects me to do most of the things with the children developmentally and the pressure of another is making me worried. I had to do every single feed with our second and I’m worried I’ll have to do the same again because he won’t and I was so drained. I don’t know what to do. How hard is going from 2-3 really? I was just so excited to get pregnant and this isn’t how I want to feel 💔

Hi! First of all - breathe! You have time to think things over and make a decision, you don't have to do that right now.

You say you were actively trying and excited - what was your thought process? Remind yourself of why you wanted another baby.

Your fears - address each of them one by one. Can anything be alleviated?

Going from 2 to 3 - we did it, and it was easier than going from 1 to 2. Our youngest just slotted into our lives as though he'd always been there. His older brothers doted on him. I will say though it is more expensive - the world is set up for families of 4! But you can make it work.

Whatever you decide, make sure you are doing it because YOU want to do it. Good luck.