Anxiety at its finest

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Hi!
So I need help, my partner really wants another baby. We have been discussing it for a very long time. We have a son whos 5 and it hasnt been the easiest for us.
Im worried im letting my anxiety stop me from having another baby. I have been in my job for 3 1/2 years now and have been moved around alot! I finally feel settled and would have the change job roles again should I be pregnant. It sound selfish but I finally feel settled and do not wanna have to move offices again.
I would love to have another baby and do it all again. Im just scared ( more so than the first time). I dont know what to do…

Do you actually want another baby?

If you dont want another baby that is an acceptable decision.

is waiting an option?

is taking less mat leave and your dh taking more pat leave an option? If not why not?

Yes, I do want another baby and time wise we can wait but my other half is worried as hes getting older and doesnt want kids to late.

he can take up to 6months pat leave but his pay it alot better than mine.

Im just worried im putting it off for silly reasons ans I know everything will be ok? I also am worried for mum guilt for waited so long for my son to have a sibling.

I do think it better to have kids with as little age difference as possible but it also depends on if you can afford to wait. Unfortunately most of the times women still need to sacrifice work to have children so I doubt you waiting would change that. It might also take you longer to get pregnant this time around so don't wait too long. I am too old to have second child as our first took 2.5 years to conceive after my miscarriage so i wouldn't want any other woman to be in my shoes. Good luck! 🙂

olika,
Im sorry to hear that! Ive been on the depo for 5 years now and they said it could take a long time.
I guess your right, we do have to sacrifice.

thanks x