Mother in law telling people when we made it clear it was a secret...

[Peggy2020]

Hi all,

Probably a bit of a rant more than anything! We told my parents and my DH parents we were expecting 2 weeks ago (10 weeks pregnant). We made it really clear that it was secret and that we weren't ready to announce it until after the 12 week scan providing all was ok (scan on Monday)

Saw MIL yesterday and she was talking about private scans as she really wants my DH to be there and said 'well don't be cross but I have told X as they know about private scanning but don't worry they won't tell anybody'

I'm absolutely furious but DH thinks I'm over reacting and that I should cut her some slack because she's just excited. Am I being unfair?

All I can think is that the person she's told isn't even a relative and I don't know who she may or may not know. I'd be heartbroken if my other family members found out through somebody else!

My own mother told a lot of people after I asked her not to (I said I knew she’d have to tell someone so close friends only, she then decided everyone she knew was a close friend).

There’s not really much you can do at this point other than be careful about what you tell your MIL going forward - and try not to let it upset you too much!