Just found out im pregnant with #4 my youngest is 9months!!

[ohdearymemumof3]

Soooo like the title says iv just found out im pregnant with baby #4 i am 4 weeks 5 days pregnant.. I have a 5yr old and a 2 & a half year old who both have autism and a 9 month old baby!! Partner wanted me to get an abortion but I decided I couldn't do it, feel like my mum and partner don't want me to have the baby though so now feel like sh*t 😔 am I doing the right thing.....

Your body - your choice.
Will your partner be supportive?

Yeah after I made it clear I wanted to keep the baby he warmed to the idea and did say he was happy at one point, but I know it takes 2 to make a baby but I still feel guilty because I know he really didn't want another one :( and my mum was politely suggesting abortion too :(

Why didn’t he get the snip then? I’m pregnant with my third and final child, as soon as the baby arrives safely my husband will be booked in, we will be extremely careful until he gets the all clear a few months later.

I can’t understand how he can say he really doesn’t want any more but doesn’t take responsibility to make sure it doesn’t happen? Why do you feel guilty? He could have worn protection if he felt so strongly about it.

You need to look at the implications for your dc, is it doable.
It's your choise, but if those who know your situation best have this stand, maybe it's because they worry about your dc.

@NoGinNotComingIn
He won't even consider the snip I already tried discussing this with him after the last baby 🙄.

@giantangryrooster
Of course its doable, it will be hard but nothing I cant handle otherwise I wouldn't be continuing the pregnancy. Just wish I had more support and reassurance!

14 months between dc 3 and dc 4 here... Decent double buggy. Get your youngest into a decent night time routine.
Congratulations!

@Sunnydaysstillhere i already have a double buggy, wouldnt say it was decent though 😅 Oyster Max Tandem..

My 9 month old goes to bed easy and at a good time but wakes alot in the night unfortunately! :( I dont know if that's because she's in my room still.

Thankyou!!x