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Pregnant with baby number4

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shayneo1 · 28/05/2020 06:57

Hi can any one offer some kind of reassurance. I’ve just found out I’m pregnant with baby number 4! I only had our daughter 9 months ago. We have an 8 year old 4 four year and then our daughter. I’m absolutely terrified. We have already outgrown our home and can’t find any we’re else to live. I’m filled with so much anxiety right now my mind feels like it’s going to explode..

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stairgates · 28/05/2020 09:28

Congratulations :) The kids can share rooms and it will all work out wonderfully!

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Grumpy19 · 28/05/2020 19:13

Hi shayneo1
I have just found out I am 6 weeks with no. 4
I too am freaking out. This was not planned at all. Youngest dad is 6 years now.
DH wants to terminate but I am really struggling to deal with that idea despite the huge list of reasons why it is the most sensible course of action.
At the moment we are in full on 'bury your head in the sand' mode! 😭😣

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Avearage · 31/05/2020 20:46

@shayneo1. Im pregnant with number 4..... It was a shock but a welcomed one!! My house is tiny!! Two bed second room is a small box room we can't move for so many reasons but we are making it work I've declutterd every inch of my house and utilised space properly..... It took along time to work out how we can work things but where there's a will there's a way!!
I don't know if you have a garden but we have utilised that space to turning a large shed into a summer house on a limited budget x a house filled with love has expanding walls dont stress over it make it work for you, there are great bunk bed ideas... Triple bunks etc.

Our family can't really escape each other as it's actually a massionett so one level... However we are the closest family unit out of all of my friends /family.
At number 4 you realise u don't need all the stuff you brought for baby number 1 and chances are with a 9 month old you have alot anyway xx

Sending love ❤️

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nicciw87 · 31/05/2020 23:57

Iv just had number 4 and u make it work honestly we are in a 3 bedroom house and kids just share rooms will be 2 in each my 11 year old will now have to share but was explained to him and he's fine with it. Messy house filled with happiness and lots of noise lol

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Candyflosscrochet · 01/06/2020 08:58

I recently found out I'm pregnant with number 4, live in a 3 bed house. I have a 16yr old and 12yr old from a previous relationship and 2 1/2 yr old from this relationship. It's scary but we'll make it work! You can be quite creative with storage, adapting rooms (we're looking at converting our extension to a room for my 16yr old, we're very lucky to have that extra space), but I'm sure you'll manage! As avearage said....you don't need half the stuff you had with number 1! Xx

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WalkTheLine99 · 01/06/2020 09:51

I’m 38 weeks here with No.5! 3 teens from a previous relationship, oldest has just turned 16. My OH and I have a 2 year old together and we were all done!

We moved house in Jan last year so we had enough bedrooms for everyone, started planning our wedding after being engaged for years and I FINALLY started my own business, which was going so well and I was soo enjoying being more than just ‘mum’

Then came Oct. I went to bed the day my period had been due and I couldn’t sleep due needing to pee every five minutes, literally. I just knew what it was and my stomach sank. I won’t lie I really went through the ringer in the beginning, I was absolutely reeling! We were using two forms of contraception and OH was on the waiting list for the snip, that’s how much we didn’t want this to happen again.. but here we were..

Anyway, after lots of soul searching we went ahead with the pregnancy and with just 2 weeks (ish) left to go we are beyond excited to meet baby!

We’ve had to rejig the bedroom setup a bit, I worked as long as I could before taking maternity.. ive managed to make alternative arrangements for my clients for the next 6 months and postponed the wedding (also due to CV) so it’s all worked out, we’re ready to welcome the new little one and their big be others and sisters can’t wait!

Honestly I know how hard it is when you’re unexpectedly pregnant, but if you want it to, it will all work out :)

Congratulations and good luck!

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Mrspeachhh · 01/06/2020 10:03

Hi I am also pregnant (unplanned) with number 4. The rest are 6 and under so I am worried too. 3 bedroom house here which is smaller than it sounds, we’ve already outgrown so kids will be sharing bedrooms until we can afford to move out (if ever with 4 now ) try not to worry you will make it work. Everyone I’ve spoke to says it’s easier going 3 to 4. Than transitioning from 2 to 3 xx

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CloMo1995 · 02/06/2020 14:14

I'm 31 weeks pregnant with baby number 4, this was a shock to me as I was 17 weeks when I found out. Me and my partner have a 7, 4 and 19 month old together already and live in a 2 bedroom house. We cant afford to move at the moment so we are making the most of the space we have, I've decluttered as much as possible and brought the oldest 2 bunk beds. Luckily our bigger bedroom is massive so atm the 3 we have already are sharing.