Pregnant After Loss and Dreaming of Rainbows - 4

[Avocuddles]

Thread 4 already! New members very welcome to our friendly and supportive team.

Latest roll call....


@Bellsx. 26wks (due 20/08/20)⁣
@Rachael321 26wks (due 20/08/20)⁣
@Pugmum19 18wks (due 31/08/20)⁣
@UrsulaSings 17wks (due 07/09/20)⁣
@Hoping2020 19wks (due 13/09/20)⁣
@SammiLou2312 22wks⁣ (due 17/09/20)⁣
@Knotemma 21 wks⁣ (due 23/09/20)⁣
@LilMrsS 20wks (due 24/09/20)⁣
@didslysquiddlydoo 20wks 26/09/20)⁣
@TunnocksTcake 19wks (due 26/09/20)⁣
@avocuddles 20wks (due 27/09/20)⁣
@Sunflower1608 20wks with twins (due 28/09/20)⁣
@SunStruck 19wks (due 28/09/20)⁣⁣
@Scout20 19wks (due 29/09/20)⁣
@Littlegoth 20wks (due 30/09/20)⁣
@HighHopes20 16wks (due 03/10/20)⁣⁣
@Treaclepie19 18wks (due 07/10/20)⁣⁣
@Aria2015 10wks⁣
@tmc14 17wks (due 11/10/20)⁣
@Hagster 17wks (due 12/10/20)⁣⁣
@seaduck 12wks (due 17/10/20)⁣
@DressingGown87 13wks (due 20/10/20)⁣
@rachelrainbow 11wks (due 1/11/20)⁣
@teaandtantrums90 13wks (due 05/11/20)⁣
@AnxiousLady1 14wks (due 07/11/20)⁣
@Shefliesonherownwings 13wks (due 09/11/20)⁣
@MysteriousSheep 12wks (due 21/11/20)
@Whiffle77 11wks (due 04/12/20)⁣
@MOGMOGMOG85 10wks (due 09/12/20)

[AnxiousLady1]

@Anon20something Apologies, as I realise "poignant" isn't actually the word I was looking for. Monday brain. What I meant to say was that being induced on this date seems meaningful. xx

[Anon20something]

Thank you all, I definitely think I’ll sit with it for a while and see how I feel.. I suppose baby boy might have his own agenda by then! @AnxiousLady1 I think I’m thinking the same, it’ll be so tough, but perhaps that’s what makes it more special in that Lily is so linked to this baby and they have that little bond. I try not to think to much of fate, because fate is cruel if it meant our babies aren’t here with us where they should be, but it feels like out of all the dates it could’ve been, it feels special. Thank you for your support, it’s really helpful to just be able to get these things out xx

[Rachael321]

Afternoon all

Having a not so good day today. Bump was pretty quiet last night but still got the odd nudge. Haven't felt anything today, now waiting on call back from midwife to see what the plan of action is from here

[tmc14]

@rachael321 ah such a worry but I’m sure it’s nothing. Great that you called the midwife. Keeping everything crossed they call you in just to check. x

[tmc14]

@Rachael321 just to add, if you don’t hear back maybe just go to triage... they’re usually lovely and will happily check.

[Anon20something]

@Rachael321 It’s so worrying when it happens so I’ll not say not to worry, we all do! I’m only 21 weeks and I’ve rang my midwife once already because I was convinced he was being quiet! Pop along to your Assessment unit, the number will be in your notes. They’ll be able to put your mind at rest and check in. Baby could just be having a quieter day but best to check checked and save you a day of worrying. Lots of love xxx

[Rachael321]

Thanks @tmc14 and @Anon20something midwife called me back from triage and said to go over and have a quick antenatal check.

Went over and all is well, found strong heartbeat! Thankfully!!

Thinks baby maybe moved right behind the placenta and that's why I cant feel it so much!

[Knotemma]

@Rachael321 glad you managed to get checked out and everything was ok

[Hagster]

Ah @Rachael321 what a relief for you, so pleased. We have to endure these worries so often, I'm glad they took you seriously and checked, and just knowing for sure is the absolute best!⁣⁣
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@tmc14 if you're starting to think about birth and the different options I'd definitely really recommend the positive birth book, which @anon20something gave an incredible endorsement of earlier in the thread. I'm loving it and it goes through all the different options and evidence and it is just so empowering. I'm completely inspired and, assuming I get that far (my caveat for all of these discussions), I have so much more excitement about birth than I did before reading it (well listening, I got the audiobook).⁣⁣
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Also wanted my thoughts and care to you @anon20something. What a challenging position you've been placed in, and a lot to think about I don't doubt. I think that the most important thing is it's your decision, no-one else's. You can't get it 'wrong' here, either way I know you will hold your daughter in mind and either way will probably be both very emotional and very meaningful. As you said, you have time to think it over.

[tmc14]

@hagster I have that book! I found it invaluable when I had my son. I read that, and did a local hypnobirthing course, plus lots of yoga. I had an awful birth but I think all of those things really helped in making my mentality about the situation much better than the situation itself! I think my anxiety now stems from, like a lot of others, I'd like the most hands off, spontaneous birth I can manage, and I'm choosing between options that don't give me that. If I choose the induction, because of my previous birth, they want to be even more hands on than a lot of inductions are, which just doesn't make me feel good about it. So I just have to ask lots of questions, compromise where it is about babies safety, and push back on some of the other things and see what the answers are. Its' fine really, and I feel so so lucky to be (hopefully! I'm the same as you on the caveat) having a second baby, but I would also like the most positive birth experience I can within the parameters of my risk factors. If that makes sense. I also need to chill the hell out, as it's 20 weeks away, and there is still so much I can't control with the birth, even with making these decisions. If only I could have a glass of wine!

@Rachael321 Ah brilliant. I only had to go in once with reduced movements when pregnant with my son. I was 30 something weeks, felt nothing all morning, tried cold drinks/sugar/lying on my side everything, went in in a total panic, the minute they hooked me up he wouldn't stop moving! Cheeky bugger. They were great though and said never feel bad about going in, they'd much prefer you to go in and it be nothing than the alternative.

I've done loads of gardening today so feel really good about the world. Hope everyone is enjoying the sunshine. x

[Anon20something]

@Rachael321brilliant news! Have a nice relaxing nice tonight, you’ve earned it! x

@Hagster thank you for the kind comment about my induction date. It’s really tough, but you’re all right, Lily will be with me no matter when it is as she always is! 17 weeks until then seems scarily close! Keeping everything crossed it’s plain sailing from there - which it never is due to the anxiety is it?!

[Hagster]

@tmc14 wanting the most positive birth you can within the parameters you've been given is completely reasonable and should be yours to decide, absolutely! I can absolutely understand the hard choices you've got but I hope that it's as much your choice as possible. Updating us both as we're a bit out of date now.

By the way if anyone is still getting tagged in the list and wants removing but doesn't want to have to declare it in the group let me know by private message and I'm happy to just do that, no questions asked. x
@tmc14 wanting the most positive birth you can within the parameters you've been given is completely reasonable and should be yours to decide, absolutely! I can absolutely understand the hard choices you've got but I hope that it's as much your choice as possible.

@Bellsx 26wks (due 20/08/20)⁣
@Rachael321 26wks (due 20/08/20)⁣
@Pugmum19 18wks (due 31/08/20)⁣
@UrsulaSings 17wks (due 07/09/20)⁣
@Hoping2020 19wks (due 13/09/20)⁣
@SammiLou2312 22wks⁣ (due 17/09/20)⁣
@Knotemma 21 wks⁣ (due 23/09/20)⁣
@LilMrsS 21wks (due 24/09/20)⁣
@didslysquiddlydoo 21wks 26/09/20)⁣
@TunnocksTcake 21wks (due 26/09/20)⁣
@avocuddles 21wks (due 27/09/20)⁣
@Sunflower1608 20wks with twins (due 28/09/20)⁣
@SunStruck 21wks (due 28/09/20)⁣⁣
@Scout20 19wks (due 29/09/20)⁣
@Littlegoth 20wks (due 30/09/20)⁣
@HighHopes20 16wks (due 03/10/20)⁣⁣
@Treaclepie19 18wks (due 07/10/20)⁣⁣
@Aria2015 10wks⁣
@tmc14 19wks (due 11/10/20)⁣
@Hagster 19wks (due 12/10/20)⁣⁣
@seaduck 12wks (due 17/10/20)⁣
@DressingGown87 13wks (due 20/10/20)⁣
@rachelrainbow 11wks (due 01/11/20)⁣
@teaandtantrums90 13wks (due 05/11/20)⁣
@AnxiousLady1 14wks (due 07/11/20)⁣
@Shefliesonherownwings 13wks (due 09/11/20)⁣
@MrsG3 14wks (due 16/11/20)
@MysteriousSheep 13wks (due 21/11/20)
@Whiffle77 11wks (due 04/12/20)⁣
@MOGMOGMOG85 10wks (due 09/12/20)
@footprintsintheslow 5 weeks (due 16/01/21)

[Hagster]

Well something went weird with my post there, shook my phone to undo a typo and it just posted that mess, apologies for the repetition! 🤦‍♀️

[AnxiousLady1]

@Rachael321 So glad you were seen quickly and can put your mind at rest. That must have been so worrying for you!! Put your feet up lovely and relax for the evening. Xxx

[footprintsintheslow]

@Rachael321 the midwife will probably tell you to have a very cold drink and go and lay on the bed on your left side whilst totally concentrating... no phone or radio or anything to see if movements start then.

@Anon20something the more I think about your date the more I like the idea. Not sure if I mean like but maybe comfortable or at peace with it. I love the name Lily, we lost our Lilwen. It's Welsh and it means white lily.

[footprintsintheslow]

@Rachael321 my thread has just updated so I've seen you've been sorted now which is a big relief!

[Anon20something]

@footprintsintheslow that’s how I’m feeling the more I think about it, it’ll be tough but I feel quite at peace with it if that’s how it’ll work out. We’ll see, maybe baby boy has his own agenda by then but it would be nice to have that bond between them and to have come full circle. Lilwen is a beautiful name, I’m sorry she couldn’t stay. X

[footprintsintheslow]

Does anyone here use the Mumsnet pregnancy app? I can't get it to do anything except tell me how many weeks I am and it lets me take a bumpie?!🤷‍♀️

[Rachael321]

Has glucose test this morning to check for gestational diabetes, all good!! Another hurdle crossed.

A relief after yesterdays ordeal that's for sure

Hope everyone is well today

[SunStruck]

@Anon20something I also perceive it as a sign - to me this would be positive xxx she's always with you and especially on this day! Life's gone a full circle. I understand your head must be a mess at the moment though, take your time ❤️

@Rachael321 I had my test yesterday and go the results today! All good, if anything the blood sugar was low so they recommend me to eat more often. But I was fasting for 12 hours before what do they expect 🤣 I was starving!!!

Scary about your movements... I had a fall 2 days ago when I was out exercising, twisted my ankle and landed on my knees and hands 🙄 I was immediately worried about the baby, and I didn't feel him for quite a while and was ready to go in... then I started to feel him a bit after I've had some sugar! I've been resting with a swollen ankle and bloody scraped knees for the past 2 days but hoping to get back out walking soon 😄

We are going to Ikea to get some furniture for the nursery this afternoon. How is everyone?

[Anon20something]

@SunStruck thank you. I hope you’re okay! We have the IKEA cot with drawers built in, (Hensvik maybe?) the malm drawers and a £60 wardrobe from when we hoped lily would be coming home - they look fab, dead easy to put together and a total bargain! Would recommend X

[SunStruck]

@Anon20something yeah all fine just feeling a bit stupid falling over in front of lots of people 🤣

Oh yes, we live abroad so will eventually move back, we don't want to spend lots of cash on furniture! We'd rather pay more for the pram, sling, baby monitor and stuff like that we can take with us. We are getting the Stuva for (also drawers built in) and the matching changing table with drawers 😄

[Anon20something]

@SunStruck Stuva is what we have, just checked! Looks fab and more space underneath. I had the malm drawers already. Can’t go wrong with Ikea! Wish it was open in the UK haha! I’ve got the mother care journey pram, got it for £100 before they closed!

[footprintsintheslow]

I'm just waiting in the car park outside the hospital before going in for my scan. I'll let you know how we get on.
Desperate for a wee 😁

[AnxiousLady1]

Good luck with the scan @footprintsintheslow. xx