20 weeks scan question

[MummaJJ]

Hey all! Just a quick question with regards to the 20 week scan. DP and I well aware it's to check baby's health but do the techs understand it's such an exciting experience for us expectant parents?

It's amazing to see baby on the screen and of course we're praying all is well health wise.

With my first we got all settled for the scan etc. Then you get all your checks, all is well and the tech seems happy with everything she's managed to do. So you're happy.

She then asks if you have any questions. Of course for a lot of people it's whether we can find out the sex of dear baby.

Never in my life have I been so deflated when they get so upset about being asked that question.

Surely they know a lot of families want to know this?

So with my first we never knew as we couldn't afford a private scan back then. It was lovely to have a surprise in the end.

This time round my DP is keen to find out. I'm so scared of being fobbed off again.

We had our 20 weeks scan today. Unfortunately baby was in an awkward position and the tech couldn't get all the measurements required so we're due back again in 2 weeks.

How did you all ask about your baby's sex at your scan?

Why don't the techs ask if you wanna know? Surely they understand how exciting this is for most couples??

Any Feedback is appreciated xx

I didn't mention it until about half way through when I just said "If you happen to see what sex baby is I wouldn't mind knowing" and she replied "Oh thank goodness I was trying not to say anything!" And then told me

I think they might get a bit huffy as some parents come in excited and really do see it more of a “gender scan”, when it is an anomaly scan and the sex of the baby is the very last thing they are thinking about when they are checking everything.

The did asked me if I wanted to know, but it was a difficult scan because of baby’s position and she wasn’t overly enthusiastic about it. She said “I think it’s a boy” with a bit of a sigh in her tone. It took her a long time to check everything, and then said sorry we just can’t check his heart because of the position but I think the rest looks ok and rebooked me for two weeks later!

At the re-check a few weeks a different sonographer just looked at my notes and said, “so I only need to check the heart, great”, and “you do know it’s a boy, yeah?” As he was so blaze I was speechless!