So looks like I'm going to be a single mother

[Hopeful2102]

Life has gotten really complicated over the last week or so. It looks like I'm goingto be doing this on my own & I'm so scared. I can't really make sense of how i feel anymore & can't stop crying. I feel like I've already failed my baby in so many ways.

You are not alone. And there is no reason to be scared. (I am not in your position I’m not even sure if I am pregnant) but I know a lot of single mothers and everyone of them was scared and everyone of them have raised the most amazing children I have ever known. You got this!!!!!

Do you have a friend circle/ good family?

Firstly, you definitely haven't failed your baby. There are so many single parents out there, mothers and fathers, who do an amazing job on their own and it is no reflection on the love between that parent and their child which is what really matters.

Have you got good friends and family around you who you can talk to? Even if not, there will be groups you can join online and in real life who can offer support but if you have someone who knows you they may be the first port of call.

Be kind to yourself

I'm single and pregnant too. I ended it with my ex 2 weeks before I found out I was pregnant. Something I do know is its better to be on your own and happy than in a relationship that is no good. We will make excellent parents, who needs a man pfttttt 😜

My friends are quite good, I'm not really close to my family. But the situation is so messy, i feel so ashamed. He's lied so much now he gets to do this and walk away? Everything is a mess and I don't know how I'm even going to get through it

But you will get through it. Take everything a day at a time and a task at a time.

If he's a liar then you're definitely better off without and you'll be a good rolemodel to your child to not to stay in a bad relationship.

I'm 13 weeks pregnant and single.

Keep positive, everything will work out!

Honestly just go into your own bubble with your baby and let the troubles of the world melt away. You have your baby and your baby has their mummy and everything else is background noise. You're going to make the best team ever and none of this will matter. You're going to have an exciting journey together

I was a single mother for years. Now in a (great) relationship. Firstly just because you're single now doesn't mean you'll be single forever. And being single with a baby is in many ways easier - you get to do things at your pace, without the need to negotiate/attend to someone else's emotional needs. And you'll have an incredible bond with your child.

It might seem so scary right now but eventually you will have your beautiful baby all to yourself and it will all be worth it. Stay strong you can do this @Hopeful2102 !! 

You will get through it! It may be tough right now but just think of that little baby your going to have and love.

Better to lose the dead weight now than suffer an idiot for the first few years of your baby's life. Congratulations, just take one day at a time and live for you and your little one.

Do you want to keep the baby? You don't have to. If you came on here hoping someone would say that, then I have. Make the right decision for you and you alone, no one can tell you what is best for you.

Thank you everyone i think its just been an emotional rollercoaster and a shock this week. Yes i definitely want my baby no doubts about that

Do not worry. You definitely did not fail your baby. Connect with your close family and friends. I am sure you can do this. You baby can offer a hope and a fantastic future. All the best.

Neon flower’s post is spot on.

You can do this, you’re just having a wobble which all pregnant mums to be have, single or otherwise. Just focus on your baby and yourself. This will be ok.

Oh OP don't worry, it will all work out. I broke up with my baby's father a year before I got pregnant. Drunken backslide ONS led to my amazing DD. Ex was horrified, begged me to have an abortion- which I almost did, twice. He cried and screamed and threw things and threatened to kill himself, and I hit bottom more than once. I felt like the worst mother in the entire world for even considering bringing her into such an awful situation!

But life has a funny way of working out. I am a great mum. It's so tough- that I can't lie about. But it's so, so worth it. My child is the single best thing that has ever happened to me. And there is nothing at all to feel ashamed of.

Forza, OP.

Being a single parent is so much easier in a lot of ways. I was a single parent and now in a lovely relationship with a man who dotes on all of us. As a single parent things are simplified, you can go at your own flow, there’s no extra stressors, it’s just you and your baby/babies.
Don’t look at this at as a bad thing, as difficult as that may seem right now, but instead realise that you get serious quality time with the love of your life