Bleeding at 11 weeks, but cervix closed

[sanatana]

Ladies,

I'm going out of mind with worry. I'm 11 weeks pregnant and I started bleeding this morning. There was a big dark blood clot in the toilet then brown blood on the tissue. Half an hour later, this was bright red blood and smaller red clots.

I was also getting sharp pains on the right side of my stomach.

I went to A&E and they weren't too worried as my blood tests showed I hadn't lost too much blood and my cervix was still closed. She asked if I'd passed tissue, but I didn't know as I don't know what I should've been looking for. They couldn't scan me as its Saturday. I have to go back in on Monday for a scan. That means stiing and worrying for the rest of the weekend.

I was reassured, but then I started reading the internet and it seems you can still miscarry if your cervix is closed.

I'm still bleeding bright red blood - it's exactly like my period. I'm changing my pad every three or four hours. I'm also getting the sharp pains which come and go, like someone is poking my stomach.

This is my third pregnancy and I never experienced anything like this before. My husband and I had a huge argument yesterday (all resolved) and I'm worried that's what's caused it.

I'm preparing for the worst and tomorrow will probably be the longest day of my life.

Is there anyone out there who has experienced something similar only for it to turn out okay? Or does anyone have ideas what it can be if not a miscarriage?

I can't offer advice on the bleeding but please don't blame yourself about the argument with your DH. I have been incredibly stressed during my pregnancy - periods of crying every day, arguing with everyone I'm close to and getting myself in a state through panic attacks. My baby is absolutely fine and all the healthcare professionals have reassured me that I haven't caused harm to my baby.

I'm so sorry you are going through this.

I had a big bleed (a gush down my leg) when I was nine weeks pregnant. I went to a and e and was examined, my cervix were closed. I didn't have any pain and I was sent home (it was a Friday) and told to come back on Tuesday for a scan as there were no appointments until then. I bled all Saturday and most of Sunday bright red turning brown on the Sunday it was like a proper period. I was convinced I had lost my baby. She's ten now

Sit tight, look after yourself and be kind to yourself. I will keep everything crossed for you

Oh and nothing you do will cause a miscarriage!

Not experienced this but I just want to say I will keep my fingers crossed for you hun. It must have been awful for you over the weekend hsving to wait for your scan. Please let us know how you get on. Xx

How are you getting on op?

Thank you to all of you - the support is very much appreciated. I was rushed to hospital yesterday with labour like pains and lots of clotting. I ended up staying in because the bleeding was too much and they wanted to scan me today. I had the scan today and no heartbeat. The baby looks like it stopped growing at 8 weeks.

I'm micsarrying the baby. I have to stay in again today as they want to do a d&c procedure tomorrow morning.

I'm totally devastated. I know I should be grateful that I've got two kids already, but it's so hard. I miss them so much too. Plus hubby is saying he doesn't want to try again after this. I'm desperate for another baby.

Oh no I'm so sorry it doesn't matter how many children you have I have 4dc and I've had 3 mcs and every one still hurt like hell.
Look after yourself it is a really horrible unfair thing to go through. X

Thank you, Buttwing. It helps to know I'm not alone. I'm sorry for your losses too, but I'm do happy that your daughter is okay - it's good to know these things don't always end badly. And thanks to you and FifiRebel for assuring me it's not my fault as I keep think about all the things I could've done differently.

1moretime - thanks for thinking of me.

A very matronly and somewhat elderly consultant came along this evening and used these scissor type things to yank the sac out. She then asked if I wanted to look at it and I almost burst into tears. They're planning to do a scan tomorrow to see if it's all come out. If not then either medication or d&c. What's the best thing to do?

Hi Sanatana, I'm sorry you're going through this. Something similar happened to me in October 2013 and it was incredibly traumatic. After the doctor removed the sac, I bled like a heavy period for a week or so and there was no need for any further medical management.

Please be assured that you did absolutely nothing to cause the miscarriage. I beat myself up afterwards trying to figure out what I'd done wrong and what I could have done differently but there is no rhyme or reason to miscarriages, just a genetic roll of a dice. Please be kind to yourself

.Sanatana - I'm so sorry you're going through this .
Hopefully at least your scan tomorrow will show that you've passed everything now. But if not, obviously you'll want to take advice from your doctors, but if it helps, I had medical management (medication) of a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks and it was fine. Well emotionally grim of course, but physically not particularly painful at all. I chose medication as it seemed to have less risk of infection and none of scarring compared to D&C, although even the risks with D&C are supposed to be very small. Nevertheless it was important to me as I wanted to try again for a baby when I felt ready (which took a while, actually).

Your DH might well change his mind about trying again - he's probably very protective of the risk of seeing you go through this again, however small, as it must've been a shock for him too.
As pp have said ^ it absolutely won't have been caused by anything you did/didn't do - vast majority of MC are caused by random chromosome errors.
Take care, hope you're home soon giving your DCs a big hug.

Thanks you Mslg and Chewy Giraffe. I had a horrible internal scan yesterday and it turns out everything was removed, so I don't need to have anything done. They started talking to me about funeral arrangements and I just couldn't deal with that.

Came home yesterday evening. Everything at home just reminds me of what I've lost. Anyway, then hubby reminded me it was DS's second birthday today. Completely forgot. Feel pretty crap.