unexpected no idea what to do

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have just found out I am pregnant. about 5 weeks.
I have 3 dc age 15,14 and 13 with xp.
do has d's age 8.
this was not part of my plan, been told I cannot conceive!!
what do I do am really torn.
just bought house I am the higher earner so cannot afford smp only. then childcare costs so much too.

could see my life returning as my dc are getting older.

but u have no dc with dp and it would be lovely. he is happy. with whatever I decide but I am so unsure.

whichever way I go I think I will have regrets

help. anyone been here?

Sort of. We have DTs. I am earner, DH home with the boys. He was going back to work when DTs start school in Sept. we really struggled from 0-4, were relieved to be through the baby stage.
In Dec we found I was 8 weeks pg . We were also told we couldn't have more.
We could've face a termination, but it has taken months to come to terms with 'starting again'. Financially it will be really hard ( I can only take 4-5 months mat leave) but I am 35 weeks now and quite looking forward to meeting this little one.

It is a really hard decision. I hope you are ok.

A bit similar. Last year I found out I was PG at 24 weeks so really had no choice (honestly though, and this upsets me to say when I see DD crawling around- I think if I had found out sooner I probably would have had an abortion- and for the reasons you already stated)- Mortgage (HIGH) nursery fees (CRIPPLING)

We have two older boys aged 11 and 13- life was getting easier- more disposable income to do 'nice things'- nice trips away etc.

Im constantly tired- DD doesnt sleep very well and my job is stressful- ill admit its hard- but I couldnt be without her now.

im sorry I may not be more help- I think I would have regretted an abortion deep down- DD is just amazing. But im broke and exhausted

thank you both.

I am so torn.
if you'd have asked me last week before I knew I would haversack abortion. but that's not so easy.

Dp appears to be burying his head a bit. just said no idea what he wants to do. up to me apparently

have said not haversack

tired how did your older kids take it?

am also worried about Dss as he doesn't live here might feel left out. he lives with granny. long story

they were over the moon.

they treat DD like a little princess