Look up Ponseti treatment. Originated in US but becoming more standard here now. Operating is now really rare except for perhaps a tenotomy possibly (operation on achilles heel) and it's apparently not half as bad as it sounds.
My experience is that many people incl. healthcare professionals are fairly ignorant on the subject so I would advise you to educate yourself as thoroughly as you can (which you obvs are
) and be prepared to advocate for your child yourself. You may have to get more comfortable with being assertive if you know more than the healthcare professional.
The important thing is that it is totally fixable as long as you do the Ponseti treatment correctly. Whereabouts are you in the UK? I recommend you find out who is the nearest Ponseti-trained expert to you in a normal nhs hospital then have your gp refer you to them for a meeting when you are pregnant, to start treatment as soon as your dd is born.
DD was born with bilateral talipes, both feet, about as severe on the Pirani scale as they could be. We did a lot of research and met with an doctor who had trained with Dr Ponseti himself who advised us basically to make sure DD was seen by someone who really knew what they were doing. So we refused to be palmed off with being seen by the closest hospital, and insisted that DD be referred to the nearest one with drs who were experts. Was quite out of character for me, but as I say, if the treatment is done right, your DD will be absolutely fine, but if not, the consequences could be a long-term problem.
It is hard at times, DD had full length plaster casts from 2 weeks old, it was awful. But, we pretty much stuck to the treatment to the letter, had no problems at all and DD is absolutely fine and you cannot even tell that she has talipes. She still wears the boots and bar at night and will do til she's 4. But again, it's fine, you just deal with it. It's fixable!
Last thought....I personally did not find the STEPS website and forum helpful at all - partly because people only post on there when they are having problems, and not when it is all going fine, so bear that in mind.
I'm off to name-change now as have totally outed myself to anyone who knows me, I just can't walk past a talipes thread if I think I can help! Please feel free to pm me.