35 Weeks / Husband on business trip to US

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My husband has been asked to go on a 10 days business trip to New York around by 35 & 36th week of pregnancy - I am unhappy about this but am I being unreasonable to ask him to stay? Anyone know any medical statistics about the likelihood of going into labour early?

Are you a first time mother? Impossible to say really. About 80% of women deliver between 37-42 weeks.

I personally would be okay with my DP making a trip like that, but I have gone to 40w and 42w in my pregnancies so wouldn't feel likely to go into premature labour (which pre 37 weeks is)

Thanks JanePurdy - this is my first pregnancy so I have don't much to go on unfortunately.

My husband had to do that at 35 wks. He went West Coast so I was a bit jittery about the flight time. If it was east coast I wouldn't be as concerned.

Just hope he told you in a better way than my DH did. He was so scared he sent me a text message!!

He dropped it into conversation at Sunday lunch with Aunts, Uncles, cousins etc al - so I couldn't get too cross!

Ruddy husbands.

It wouldn't bother me and I've had 39 & 37 weeks.

I would give him an earful for testing the waters in front of family and friends.

Tell him "Great - I'll give you a big shopping list of baby stuff to buy in the USA that can only be bought there" and see if the trip still happens....

New York is actually only about 5hrs away. I would have been fine with it as had no complications or scares and didn't feel even close to giving birth by 35/36 weeks.

Oh yes send him with a shopping list. That's what I did and he felt so guilty he brought back loads of stuff.

My husband is going to Italy for 9 days when I'm 36 weeks pregnant. I'm trying not to worry about it.....

Chances are that your baby will be late if it's your first. That said who knows.....

My first baby was born 41 weeks, but it only took 11 hours - first contraction at 11pm, waters broke 1am, hospital at 4am, baby appeared at 9am - so if my husband had been overseas he probably wouldn't have been back in time for the birth.

I don't think its unreasonable to share your concerns with him. I know depending on the job, its not always easy to avoid trips, but I can understand why you'd feel nervous.

is there someone else you can ask to be a birth partner in the unlikely event you go into labour early? or someone close who would accompany and support you with any concerns or complications?

how i felt about dh taking a trip would depend on those things - we don't really have anyone else so this would worry me. at nearly 37 weeks i am feeling very clingy towards dh and vulnerable. this could just be me though...!

My DH will be in US until I'm 36 weeks but grounded after that. He was away until 36 weeks with my first too.

I do understand how you feel but I guess it comes down to whether he has a real choice or not.

Get him to go to THe Children's Place for baby grows and stuff. And perhaps baby gap.

First was on due date. Second was a week late. Third was 3 days early.

You should be fine at 36 weeks.

I wouldn't be happy with the introduction of the topic during a family meal.